Mine vs. His continued...

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I just read this original post and it really got me to thinking about my situation and your thoughts on things above just the house.

Currently me and DH have seperate accounts for almost everything. I do feel as though most is evenly shared. We split the house payment, I pay utilites for gas and power, he pays for cable phones and more of the groceries.

We had originally discussed joining bank accounts but coming off of a bad divorce myself I was not yet prepared to join them. But we had planned to in the future.

I asked him the other day what he thought about combining them and for the first time I got "I think things are just fine the way they are."

Now I am only wondering this because I noticed that his son is joint on his account and I think it interesting to have your child and not your spouse.

Any thoughts?

He doesn't want you guys to

He doesn't want you guys to share an account because then YOU would know how much money SS is siphoning off from him.

Is his son using the account

Is his son using the account or is it a beneficiary reason that he's on there?

I have to question how

I have to question how finances were run when he was with the ex btich BM?

Erks me a few of these things too.....

the BM had joint on all my DH's bank a/c's etc....and yet I am only joint on one.....which honestly, I dont need to be joint with all his debt but sometimes I feel like Im the 'not as important wife' more like just the temp wife without the golden uterus....

Ide be making demands that the ss not have access to his fathers money...you never know what cld happen down the road.....In my case my skids had access to their fathers credit cards and more....and the BM would tell them to buy what ever using his cards....

since I been around that crap stopped the moment I found out about it....

I wouldn't want anything to

I wouldn't want anything to do with an account that a child was on. Why not open a savings account for the two of you to put a certain % of income into for vacations, eating out, etc., things that are extra. And make sure you aren't paying too much toward expenses. Something does seem fishy.