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My god BM dont you have your own life? I cant help but laugh at this one...

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Submitted by lil_lady on Sat, 01/25/2014 - 1:33am

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I am home alone on early mat leave... oh joy of joys. Today I got bored and took a picture of me and did some cute comments about missing SO and posted it on instagram. I don't have my profile blocked because I don't really put anything personal up there nor am I on it a lot. Mostly I put pictures of yummy food I cook lol. Then I find out that it is the annual party night for an event that BM has attended for the last 2 years. BM has never been smart about her senseless partying. We keep an eye on it going into court since she has no problem pawning of the skids on to a sitter but yet refuses to let SO see his kids more then a week out of the month. Anyways I take a look at BM's to see if we will have some more amo for court. Well there was nothing for partying pictures but there was a picture of her posed in exactly the same way with pretty much the exact same comments. I am floored this woman never ceases to amaze me! Not upset about it at all I am just wondering how anyone could not notice how desperate she is... I am 34 weeks pregnant now and we have been trying to plan for the birth of our baby... communicating with her that if we have the kids when I go into labor we would like to have them go to her so on and so forth. What does BM do start talking to SD6 about how her and her BF of 6 months want to be married soon. Its a like she HAS to have something just as exciting going on in her life like this is a competition. Lol I just don't get it... ok BM I hope you feel better ;).

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Submitted by lil_lady on Sat, 01/25/2014 - 3:15am

SD also keeps asking if BM is going to visit the baby in the hospital. I am still trying to figure out whoes idea this is. It seems like a bit much for SD7 to come up with. But in the same token I am hesitant that BM would actually suggest this... she already seems so jelous!

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Submitted by lil_lady on Sat, 01/25/2014 - 12:18pm

And she wont be! The hospital is getting a specific list of the few people whom I will personally call the police over. On the same note this is the woman who threatened to show up to every ultrasound I had since we asked if SD could be there in order to make SD part of this. I really don't understand her disparity to be part of this... I thought it was over once the ultrasounds where done but NOPE! We have actually given up and wont be having SD at the last one. Also because we feel it would be pretty boring for her since its more of a technical to figure out size and placement.

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Submitted by lil_lady on Wed, 01/29/2014 - 5:36am

I am not sure what your getting at here... BM has never been expected to bring the skids any where for an ultrasound nore will she be expected to do that for my delivery. Family has always picked up the skids. Or we do right before appointments they are involved with. BM knows about it them because on the day that we dont technically have them we have to ask permission to pick them up to be part of something. She has has just suggested that she feels that maybe she should show up, since her daughter is involved. BM seems to think this entitles her to be involved. Delusional I tell ya!

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Submitted by lil_lady on Wed, 01/29/2014 - 5:36am

I am not sure what your getting at here... BM has never been expected to bring the skids any where for an ultrasound nore will she be expected to do that for my delivery. Family has always picked up the skids. Or we do right before appointments they are involved with. BM knows about it them because on the day that we dont technically have them we have to ask permission to pick them up to be part of something. She has has just suggested that she feels that maybe she should show up, since her daughter is involved. BM seems to think this entitles her to be involved. Delusional I tell ya!

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Submitted by lil_lady on Sat, 01/25/2014 - 12:23pm

I was thinking about asking if anyone else has had this happen. I was really surprised to hear SD ask this since we have explained the family tree to her several times. Then again it makes sense for a child to want their mom involved in something so big. On the other hand given BM's history of seeming to think that we are one big family makes me really wonder whose idea it really is!

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Submitted by Generic on Sat, 01/25/2014 - 1:56pm

BM wants to be a big happy family with you? Like she's having boundary issues or a creepy stalker? Does she know how you feel about her?

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Submitted by lil_lady on Sat, 01/25/2014 - 3:45pm

Whoa now you put the word happy in there! Lol you know it really depends on month whether she wants the happy word in there. Before my pregnancy BM wanted the brady bunch but of course that depended on the day. After my pregnancy she made it clear that she HATED me and has stuck to it which is nice. The weird part it she has tried to over involve herself as well. I think it was her reality check that SO and I where not just a fling. Things like she wants SO to meet with her to make the same house rules but without me... She has suggested that since we have pushed for SD involved in ultrasounds that she should be involved as well. When she found out we where expecting (in court) she emailed SO and told him she thought she and him should tell our SD... its never ending!!! She also has a history of driving by our house to "check if SO is home" even though her version of generous access is 6 days out of the month. So tell me BM why are you REALLY stalking my home when SO isn't even there and away from work!?

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Submitted by Azure on Sat, 01/25/2014 - 12:27pm

This is one bored, lonely, no-self-esteem BM! LOL

I have an Instagram too and I don't keep it private either. I always wonder if BM is looking at it since SD follows me. I don't post much more than pictures of my dog, food, or the show or the occasional picture. I like Instagram and I hope BM never ruins it for me LOL

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Submitted by lil_lady on Sat, 01/25/2014 - 12:37pm

No kidding... I am more worried that she is going to pull something the day I am giving birth! That said she totally creeps on me. I used to dislike it now I honestly don't care. All she is doing is proving how jelous she really is. The last month has been amazing because she does not know where we live as we have moved and always pick up the kids... So the fact that she cant stalk our house has been great!

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Submitted by lil_lady on Sat, 01/25/2014 - 3:50pm

I wish we where engaged... I do have a ring on my finger. But SO is slightly material about engagements he wants to get a certain ring and I guess I respect that. For now I have a ring with a modest diamond and I bought him a nicer tungsten ring. We are waiting for that day when we feel we can afford it and it wont just be a stressful experience of nickel and diming. Now I know a lot of people have attacked me on this. But this is what we BOTH want I would like to enjoy my wedding with out having to worry about current debt. lol but no she didn't go that far but she did start calling her best friend wifey once she saw the ring I had.

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Submitted by lil_lady on Sat, 01/25/2014 - 3:56pm

Oh trust me we have lol despite how mad she is about it we refuse to do meetings phone calls texts... just emails for documentation! It pisses her off to no end. She recently lost it on SO because she can tell I 'writing' and she doesn't want to communicate with SO's GF. You know I realize I am his gf but the way she puts it all the time she might aswell stick 'just' infront of it if you get my drift, I am just the gf. Christ we are having a baby together!! She was told nicely by SO that he wrote his own emails and had them edited in order to reflect professional manner. SO also refuses to communicate with her outside of exchange days... this is the battle we are fighting now and its only taken her about 6 months to figure out that no matter what she does she wont get a reply until exchange day. I refuse to even acknowledge her now so glad to have no communication obligations any longer!

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Submitted by lil_lady on Sat, 01/25/2014 - 9:06pm

Unfortunately SOs family has close ties with BM. This is another thing I am expected to deal with I actually got an email from SIL asking why we dont hang out and is deleted from my fb. I dont believe it is fair to disconnect them from that experience of knowing the baby is coming. Also we cant really hide it from bm if we have the kids and have to bring them back in the middle of the night :$. I am guessing no matter what I do BM will find out but no SO is not going to actively call SD and tell her the baby is coming. That said I am not going to stress myself out about people finding out. This woman has done enough to ruin special moments she will not ruin this one for me.

We have agreed no one will be informed right away that we are going to the hospital or when we come back home. And we will be asking those that are involved to keep that info to themselves.