Hi everybody.

My dw blames me for how my ss25 and ss21 have turned out. ss25 is in debt, he a judgment against him for repo-ed car, doesn't make payment on student loans, and has credit card debt. He plays video games in his spare time and works at a movie theater. So basically does not have a plan for life definitely cant move out on his own. SS21 doesnt have debt but also no plan. Niether ss has an education or a marketable skill. DW parents them like a guilty mom. She let them have a dog without consulting me. WE never had a dog. I never owned a dog. The dog was a disaster, more than normal. So much so that the dog was sent to a no kill shelter after 6 months. What happens next you guessed it wife buys two smaller dogs a year later out of guilt. DW does not discuss this with me of course, just says I am sorry.

Now I have two ss's who are no help around the house of course, two dogs that are not being taken care of, and a son14 and daughter 12 with DW. Ready for it, wait..... here we go. I work fulltime, do the shopping, the laundry, pick up drop off of two kids, half the cooking, all the homework duty, serve the kids dinner, all the orthodonist appointments for both kids, doctor appointments, all the yard work, snow shoveling, I coached the kids for 9 years of sports. My DW works fulltime pays bills, cooks twice a week cleans ocassionally. but she complains all the time. Here we go...we dont go any where except for Ecuador where she is from a bunch of times, we are in New jersey so Toronto is big deal, so Orlando this year, Outer banks North Carolina, Virginia Beach, Washington D.C., Punta Cana Domincan Republic, Atantica City, Wildwood NJ, plus many other smaller trips in 13 years. woo..I wasted step kids youth but they never listened to me. SS 's always had bad report cards and progress reports. Still I helped them with buying a car and student loans. I am currently ruining my own son because I let him play video games, and help him too much with his homework. And our house is too small to have guests over.

Turns out early in our marriage to cope I started drinking more and more in 2011 I stopped . I go to AA 3 to 5 times a week for an hour or two. She thinks I am talking to women. I assure you I am not. of course intamcy is out beacuse she doent like how I treat the kids. wow I feel better hope somene can relate