He can tell her he's already made a decision regarding school. If someone is determined to file for joint custody, there is probably no actual way to say anything in a manner that will discourage that.

Are you talking about private schools? B/c if it's the public school system, it's easy, "We're in the district for school X, so he's going to school X."

LOL I love the "I don't know" or "we'll see" remarks...my DH uses those a LOT with BM and I get so angry! I don't have a problem telling crazy BM the truth and being as blunt and honest as possible - have no idea why he can't do the same!

Anyway - we had a similar situation with BM wanting to tell DH where SD should go to school (SD lived with us at the time) and even suggesting a school 1/2 way between our house and theirs (she's really THAT stupid...never mind the whole district/zone restrictions!) and he eventually told her that he would pick a school that best suited SDs needs and that it was best for her to be closest to our home because we had to get her to/from school, etc. So maybe the whole "it's best for the skid if we pick the school" approach would work for her?

My DH is NCP and he had a say in SD5's school. She is the mom and he is the dad and they should discuss these things. Why shouldn't she have an opinion and suggestions regarding her childs schooling? He has the decision making authority but that doesn't mean she shouldn't have a voice and shouldn't be heard. Why are her suggestions and opinions automatically discarded? Maybe she has some great ideas or suggestions. They shouldn't be discarded just because shes NCP or an ex.

I am so glad that my SD5's BM has the sense not to abuse her label as CP. If she didn't listen to him or disregarded what he said I guarantee you he WOULD have at the least filed for joint legal custody so that he could have a say in some decisions and while he is at it he most likely would have figured I might as well file for joint physical too...or more parenting time. 5b8y4

Our BM tried to take control of the school matter when they had 50/50. She did not discuss with DH, and changed schools to her neighborhood school district the weekend before school started! DH took them from that school on the first day of school, and returned them to the schools in our area. That week was their hearing, and DH got full physical and legal custody. Judge was not happy with the games the BM played with their school, especially since we had ample evidence of her not being involved in their education at all the previous year.

Then BM started whining about finding a school halfway between their homes. Hell no. We have the kids full time, our county has much better schools than her county, besides the fact that you go to school according to your address (which is why we moved to this county in the first place). We will NOT uproot the children again, moving them to another school for HER benefit, so she doesn't have so far to drive every other Friday and Monday. We are looking for the best interest of the kids first, and our convenience second. And it is very convenient for us that the bus stop is right outside our door.

Usually when a mother loses custody, there has to be a HUGE reason. Therefore, in my opinion, she has to 'earn' the right to voice her opinion and have it heard.