If you have been following my other posts, you will know thatq we live 8 hours away from SS and DH's and my parents so every 2-3months we take a trip down to pick up SS and go to DHs parents for a weekend. This is the first time however that we are bringing DD4months. Usually because we each want to see our side of the family we do a lot of running around and driving those weekends. It is completely exhausting. To make things more difficult since DH has SS the whole weekend we have to plan round that. Usually we will take him to My MILs for the weekend while I will go just for a day then go to my parents for the other day, while DH and SS stay at his moms. This is because I don't feel comfortable asking my parents to let SS stay there for a night. My DD is their only grandchild and so they don't have any big kid toys yet o it's not really fun for SS anyway. Its just unfortunate because DH has to stay with SS all weekend so he never spends any time with my family. I've asked him before if he can just take the day and spend it with SS then come back to my family's house and he said no he wants him the whole weekend. So I've stopped asking and now just do my own thing. But now that DD is here we have to incorporate her into everything. To make matters worse we only drive one car down when we visit and everyone lives about 1.5 hours away from each other. Also I end up having to hold DD all day when we are at MILs because she doesn't have her swing, bouncy seAt, play mat, etc. Is what I am doing ok? Or should we be more together as a family as DH puts it?