RUN dont walk RUN!!!!! Your needs arent being met.

Estranged from 4 other children from previous marriages... this spells trouble. And how many kids is he not estranged from that you're watching all the time? Good thing this guy got fixed, because he sure doesn't seem to know how to put on a rubber. Are you ok with the fact that he has all these children, but now cannot provide you with your own bio children if you someday want a child? This doesn't sound like a life that anyone would want. Free of bio children means you are free. If you're barely seeing the man you married and putting up with his crap constantly, is it worth it? Sadly, love does not always equal happiness, as the fairy tales tell us.

OMG, I've been the babysitter to SD as a wife,and it's no way to live even if you're being thrown a bone now and then! My SD from second marriage is trying to do it to me as a Step Grandmother and I refuse to be walked on...all we hear is poor me, I'm a single mom. She finds plenty of time to party! I felt I had to forgo my hopes for a child because I thought a child needed two parents and resources...It was her choice to let herself get pregnant and have the baby, now be a parent!

RUN! End this life of disappointment. Certainly your needs are not being met, and there is always something better out there - it wouldn't take much to improve on this situation. Did he marry you because he needed a babysitter or because he loved you? I have been stuck in a similar situation so I changed my work schedule so that I would be working when the skids visit - then I couldn't be assigned babysitter.

I don't agree with the "run" advice.... when you said your wedding vows, you said for better or for worse, so why does everyone think "run for the hllls" when things get "worse" If you said you were being abused or something that would be different, but you start out by saying DH is a nice guy.

You don't say whether you've discussed your feelings with DH? I also want to defend your DH on a few fronts (again, I'm not sure of the whole story, but this is how I see it with what you've posted here)

As far as working all the time: I have to give him credit for working and wanting to provide for his family. Plan B- He could be a lazy sloth that sits on the couch and drinks beer and expects you to provide for him and Skids. I can also understand how difficult it is when you are working alot to try to fit everybody in i.e. wife, Skids, friends in what limited free time you have. I do agree that you, as wife should come first, BUT I believe your Bio says you have the Skids EOWE and Holidays so I can see where if hubby only sees the Skids 4 days a month that he would want to make the MOST of that time as well.

As far as "watching" the Skids when DH is working? Your bio says they are 17 and 14, now I don't know if they behave like heathens or what, but I can't imagine that they need the kind of "babysitting" that a 4 and 7 year old would need.

As far as his estranged children from other marriages, I am guessing these children are older? In their 20's perhaps? Has he been estranged from them all of their lives or just since they have gotten older? I can see how you would be resentful if you want children of your own, but DH does not.. but then again I am guessing you knew he was "fixed" before you got married?

I'm not trying to pass judgement here, I guess I am just trying to see things from your DH side as I just don't agree with the other posters that he is this horrible man that you need to run from... I am just not getting that.

Tell him! When I first started dating DH, we would make weekend trips to somewhere close...just the two of us. As the years went by...those trips became non-existant. One year, when my birthday was approaching he asked what I wanted. I told him "I want a weekend trip to somewhere we haven't been yet. I want you to plan the whole thing and surprise me". That's what I got. A weekend trip to San Antonio (Texas), where we had a GREAT time. Now...we try to go on a little road trip-just the two of us--every few months...