So 2 Weekends ago, After 5 EOW's of the SKIDS being dropped off absolutely filthy, smelly, with matted hair and riddled with headlice we took the SKIDS straight back to BM's kindly requesting she treat their hair before sending them over (really didn't want to do this)and shes had a major s&*tfit told my partner hes not seeing his kids ever again and hes a deadbeat spermdonor dad (despite offering to take the kids following week or even pick them up next day)MIL decides to stick her nose in. going behind DH's back and asking for the SKIDS this sunday, BM says yep no prob whilst sending DH constant abusive manipulative bullshit texts as usual. As usual DH does not reply and now BM has called MIL to complain DH has not called to check on SKIDS - this is because he doesn't want to listen to her manipulative bullshit and nastiness. Additionally he doesn't want to walk into a trap where she refuses to drop SKIDS off at MILS on Sunday, SO now not only does DH have BMs nasty crap to deal with his mum is now on his case demanding he ring her and quote "kiss her ass" so she can see take the SKIDS out on sunday (mind you DH is not invited)I feel so bad for my partner as I don't really want to get involved but this woman uses her children as pawns to boost her own ego and thinks nothing of sacrificing SKIDS emotional wellbeing and happiness just to make cheap shots at DH by telling SKIDS he doesn't love them and sent them back because he didn't want them... It hurt him so much to do it and whilst I care about the SKIDS I desperately want this woman to get her act together. have considered alerting the authorities but do not believe there is sufficient evidence - besides grubbiness, photos of what looks very suspiciously like an iron burn on SD3s back, we are at a complete loss at what to do. DH is getting pressured from all sides because whilst im trying to be supportive he is hearing a lot of my opinion, MIL does not appreciate this as I think she believes I have too much influence over him, BM cant seem to move on and accept the fact that she does not control DH anymore so therefore uses SKIDS as a means to try to control him (as sexual invitations and saying she has cancer which is a lie, doesn't work) im sick of feeling like the villain as I don't want to be, but I cant stand them running around looking like derelects and not understanding the importance of personal hygiene