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Submitted by amishheaven on Thu, 05/31/2012 - 3:46pm

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Well I tried to talk to SO last night it was the start of it. He listened and I did as well. He said that I am his queen that is why I dont have to do anything (cook, clean etc.) I do work outside the home he is retired. So in away I do feel that I shouldnt have to do as much at home but I am willing to help anytime. I told him that the reason I dont feel like I am his queen is because I dont feel emotional connected to him. I told him that I will always feel as if I am second best, so I either had to learn to live with it or move on. I do feel I deserve to have someone love me completely. I dont get it.

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Submitted by amishheaven on Thu, 05/31/2012 - 4:15pm

Well it just seems like everytime I turn around something with his late wife is coming up in talks or in around the home and He will never say I am the best or anything like that

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Submitted by not2sureimsanea... on Thu, 05/31/2012 - 4:21pm

Does he still appreciate what you do though, saying thank you and the like? Some men aren't apt to say things like "You're the best"--just not in their nature.

If he's thankful for you, and says things like you're his queen, I feel like that makes up for it. If you feel unloved, is it his actions or his words?

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Submitted by amishheaven on Thu, 05/31/2012 - 4:27pm

It is alittle of both actions and words it is like I am wrong in how I feel. The thank you part is there sometimes but I just feel like I will always be second best in his heart. I do feel I deserve more.

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Submitted by MyMistake on Thu, 05/31/2012 - 7:45pm

I also married a widower and know how you feel. Luckily my husband tries very hard to make me feel like I am his only love...just sometimes its so over the top I feel like he is not being sincere or he is forcing it because he is afraid I will leave. If you are not married maybe you should really search your heart on this one. No need to rush if you don't feel emotionally connected, ya know?