She is a real sweety and her and I were besties when I was with my first husband. We lived in a community together and her husband and my ex were friends too. Their marriage is in big trouble. Am I sad for her? Sure! Of course! It is always sad to hear things like that. But everyone saw it may happen but her, so its a bit frustrating to say the least I guess. But I thought it may be helpful to those here that are on the fence with having a bio or ours with their partner, think of what their parenting skills and styles are now before you make a move! She married a man I will call Brian. When she married Brian he had a son with his first wife. Never gave a damn about his kid, was not good at keeping touch etc. He showed he was a shitty person and not a good father! Brian was the type that was not involved at all. Big surprise the kid grew up to have problems and came to live with my friend and Brian. He wanted her to do all the work, all the parenting and never complain. He had blinders on, everything was great, kid would adjust later it was all good. Then my friend wanted to have a kid by him and could not, so we thought she was dodging a major bullet, she did not want to hear that one. She took fertility treatments and had twins who are now five. And friend complains Brian is not there for the kids, he never helps, is not a good role model, wont watch them, wont act like a dad. I love my friend but her husband showed her with his actions that he could not parent! Now two more kids are going to be COD because she did not think this through! It is so sad and just generally messed up. If someone is a shitty parent dont have more kids with them! If he could not change for his first kid he wont change for yours!