One week left until court; BM gave birth today, even
We are going back to court in one week because BM wants to move out of state with twin SS/SD5. This time around, even I have to testify. She was induced and delivered her fourth child today. (This time makes the third father.)
This seems crazy. I mean it's like living in an unreal nightmare. We have 50/50 custody with them right now and she wants to change it to something like 70/30 or 75/25 (with us paying CS despite her making twice what we do) and she wants to move in less than a month.
This new job she wants will pay off her student debt and, if she sticks with it for the next 16 years, pay for the kids' college so long as they attend the university she wants to work for.
Tomorrow the kids will hang out with me most of the day because it's the holiday break. I need to put on a happy face for them because they have a new brother and, well, despite my disgust for her right now, a new sibling should be something to celebrate.
This is really stressful. I can't wait until this is over. I really hope this gets decided in my partner's favor. The kids are a regular part of our lives and it would devastate me if they weren't here. I don't even want to imagine how my partner would be without them -- he's such a good dad.
good luck to you both.
good luck to you both. positive thoughts your way
She just gave birth and you
She just gave birth and you all have a court date a week later? Yikes.
Wow. Lots of prayers to you,
Wow. Lots of prayers to you, your partner and the kids, and BMs other kids.
What a seriously stressful
What a seriously stressful week. The only day this week we haven't had the kids was from late afternoon of Xmas eve to noon on Christmas. BM has been in and out of the hospital this week, as well. She got them iPads (seriously... A pair of iPads) which basically made everything we got for them seem lame. I had to stop recording them unwrapping presents because they kept complaining. They're only five!
She's still pushing ahead with court for Monday despite everything else. She's been all sort of gracious to me and my partner for being flexible and patient with her because of the circumstances, too. (I just hope it makes her look bad when she tells the judge she should move away with the kids.) She also told my partner that there's been no offers on her $400K house. Sounds like her new husband doesn't have a job lined up there, either.
And what's most stressful is that our lawyer has been amazingly absent from communication. She hasn't returned emails, phone calls... This goes down on Monday! She told my partner that I have to testify and that we would have a meeting to go over questioning and strategy beforehand. I realize that this is the holiday but we can't do this without our counsel! She's already deposited the retainer and billed us for services!
Aside from Xmas afternoon, the kids have suddenly become very happy with the toys that we got them and they're really happy to be spending a large chunk of their break with me. I am happy to spend it with them, too. Problem is thinking about Monday makes me want to cry. I don't want them to go...
Awww, good luck to you guys.
Awww, good luck to you guys. I hope it all goes well for you. In my understanding she would have to prove how this move would be beneficial to the kids, not to her. Keep us informed. I will keep my fingers crossed for you. How far away is she planning on moving?