Okay..this Sunday is it. Baby shower for the 19yo SD. I'll try to make this short and as simple as I can.

SD19 is pregnant by a man she intends to marry next year..her mother is a complete psycho who has emailed and texted many things over the course I have been with my DH..in other words tried to start many things that caused some problems here and there. SD19 and SS18 think their mother does no wrong.

SD decided she wanted a baby shower at a lake..picnic, cornhole, jetskis..and invite many people to it..and have it hosted by none other than her waste of skin mother.

DH's family HATES this woman with a passion..hates. She is nothing but trouble..is a useless waste of life that does not work and lives off the state. But seems to have money when money is needed..probably off the pot she grows and sells.

About 5 weeks ago, we received a phone call that the fiance had hit my SD and bruised her up pretty bad dragging her from her car. When my DH called her and told her he was pretty much going to knock the guy out, she proclaimed his innocence and said her mother made the whole thing up..said she hated her fiance and is telling lies on him. Admitted to a fight between her and her fiance and it got a little physical..yet he did not hurt her.

My DH was still livid..told her he didn't care if it was a 'little' fight as she called it - he still put his hands on his daughter and he was pissed. For about 3 weeks SD didn't call or come down and gave my DH the cold shoulder. Made him feel like the bad guy. She then calls me 2 weeks ago proclaiming her baby shower is being sabotaged by this huge lie her mother created...DEMANDED that I tell my DH to stop telling people about the incident because she was standing by her fiance..and her mother was a huge liar and was only trying to stir up crap. She said nobody wanted to come to the baby shower due to her fiance coming and that DH's family has all declared they are going to kick her fiance's ass...which I know they all have.

So I ask DH about all this...he said he STILL believe that the guy hurt his daughter and he knew his daughter well..knew how she lied and would protect him. NOW...knowing his piece of shit ex wife...I have NO idea what to believe. I really don't.

I'm coming to the end..I swear...lol...

Today....I tell my DH that I really was dreading this baby shower due to his ex wife being there. She still acts like she has rights to act the way she does and she makes me want to vomit when I see her crackwhore face. Who in the hell has a baby shower with men and women..at a lake..jetskis..volleyball..cornhole...and there was no way in hell that I am gonna be hanging out with the ex wife, her family or her friends. Not really something I want to attend but for my SD's sake..I am.

So I ask my DH some questions..like what is going on with the fiance? How are people gonna take him hurting my SD at this shower? Will there be issues? He has pretty much gone back to his 'my daughter does no wrong' routine and gave me that look that said he didn't really want to talk about it. Then he finally said just that.."I don't want to talk about it. I want us to go to the shower and be there for her. It's what she wants."

So now here's my deal Sunday...I am going to a baby shower being thrown by the BM. Either this domestic incident happened or it didn't..either way, I don't feel either way should be glorified. If this man DID put his hands on her, why act like the relationship is alright to go ahead...why act like nothing is wrong and go to this shower wishing good thoughts when a man beat up his pregnant fiance?

Then..on the other hand..if the BM DID lie about it...why are we going to party hosted by the tramp and nobody is confronting her on it? No one is calling her out on it and telling her sorry ass to NOT come to this party...why is she allowed to walk around this shower like she's a privileged individual that possibly screwed up this young man's life by lying about him committing a violent act against his pregnant fiance?

So......I did what struck me at the time......I told my DH I was done..completely done with this topic of contention. Told him it was none of my business..if no one wanted to do anything about him hurting her OR anything about the BM acting like she did..I was done hearing about it. I'm tired of things just getting shoved under the carpet - but watch out when the shit hits the fan. The drama is so thick you could bottle it and sell it for weeks. My DH is wanting to shrink back in the corner once again for Princess...she has whined and cried enough to him about how awful people are treating her fiance and that how her mother lied..YET she is still thinking her mother is the greatest thing since sliced bread...unreal.

I have decided in order to keep my sanity I am stepping out of this insanity...too much for me. DH was VERY visibly upset and told me I was family..he told me I was very much a part of this and wanted me to feel I wasn't any kind of burden. I let him know that I could no longer condone either thing..the fiance hurting her..IF he did...and condoning the BM lying in such a way and yet life goes on like nothing happened...and the fiance not having the balls to stand up to her letting her know the deal.

Too much like a soap opera to me...I'll go to this shower..shut my mouth and pray to God for it to be over REAL quick. I'll sit and watch the players in all this madness act like they don't have a care in the world and that all is well.

DH has tried to talk to me about things more and I just look at him..I'm done and I mean it. Too much bullshit with the SD and the BM...WAY too much. If I hear one more word on this subject I'll explode on him. He needs to deal with it and no longer will I have an opinion.

Hallelujah! I'm stepping outside the box....!!!

Okay..rant over!! Even if no one answers..thanks for letting me vent!