Raising my step son
I need some advice. My wife walked out on me, our 3 year old, and my 17 year old step son 5 months ago. She left for a man who was wealthy and in his mid 50's. My wife was 34 at the time. Me and my boys thought everything was perfect and there were no problems in the marriage. My wife came home one day said she was leaving and was gone in 5 days. Took only her clothes with her, was given a brand new car and a furnished town home. Since then both boys have been with me 96.7 percent of the time since I record every day for court purposes. She filed for divorce and agreed to a 50 50 split of the boys but my 17 year old step son wants nothing 2 do w her new place or new man or with her 4 that matter. I am the only father my step son has ever known and 4 all intents and purposes I consider him my son, he calls me dad and we r great. My wife says if I don't agree with everything in the divorce she will take my step son away. He says he won't go and wants to stay with me and never live with his mom. What do I do, my attorney says she could pull him away from me if she wants since I have no legal rights and I dont want to lose my boy. In kind of a jam, any advice would b useful.
How long til he's 18? I kept
How long til he's 18?
I kept my SD when she was that age. Her bioparents were both in other states. There are options.
Stall until SS is 18 and then
Stall until SS is 18 and then he can choose where he lives and who he lives with?
Also, your wife is (IMHO) bluffing. If she or new dude wanted SS she wouldn't have left him there. She probably doesn't want him, but is using the threat of taking him to get you to agree to stuff.
Sorry I don't have more helpful advice...sounds like a horrible situation.
...Your son is 17? When does
...Your son is 17? When does he turn 18? When he does, he can live with whoever the heck he wants to and nothing she says or does will be able to stop him. So just drag on the court proceedings until then.
Your wife sounds like a money-grubbing b**** and she'll deserve everything she gets.
He will be 18 in November,
He will be 18 in November, none of this would be an issue if he was 18 now. But my wife wants me to agree to no child support in the divorce while leaving the kids with me all the time, she calls it 50 50 split but it wont be and me and my boys are in a financial jam since she left 32k a year left with her, although at this point I think she may have lost that job.
Oh HELL no. Let her use it as
Oh HELL no. Let her use it as a bluff. He'll be 18? usually divorces can drag on for a year or more. Don't agree to it. Actually, I would go to court right now and file for CS. I personally find this would be in your best interest. And no way in heck is she getting 50/50 on paper. You have the documentation to prove it, right?
Well, shit, stall. That's
Well, shit, stall. That's only months away. Orrr.... agree to no CS IF you keep SS, then when he turns 18, file for CS for the other child. }:)
Your SS could file to
Your SS could file to emancipated himself from his mother if it comes to that.
But stall as long as you can, its less than a year before is is 18.
I would imagine that you can
I would imagine that you can stall court proceedings and such until he's 18.
This kid's testimony
This kid's testimony regarding his mother's character will have more merit in court than yours. A heart felt story from a broken hearted teenager with a three year old little brother would be your best line of defense. Pray that the judge can see her for the horrible sleezy loser that she is. Don't play dirty. Keep that documentation going. In most states, the parent who is most willing to make the arrangement work and acts the most reasonable has a big advantage. Hopefully, she will get into court and show her true colors.
i wish there were more men
i wish there were more men out there like you.
at 17 years old he can choose to live where he wants to. in court eyes he can decide for himself. I would apply for c/s. screw her. she is getting everything handed to her and you left with financial obligations. i wouldn't let her take 50 %...she CHOOSED to leave...she choosed to leave it all behind...