scenario wanting opinions on
This is not me but I want opinions as 3rd parties
A wife is running an errand for her husband which takes her to her husband's friend's house.
Other people are present.
She stays and alcohol is brought out. She drinks. The husband's friend drinks. She stays for three hours with the other people. No one present drinks more than they can handle. Everyone present has drank in each other's presence before and knows each other's drinking toleneces.
She mentions she needs to use the bathroom before she leaves. The other people leave. She goes inside to use the bathroom. Once out of the bathroom the friend tries to pull her into his bed, she has to say no several times, he kisses her while she is having to physically shove him away and he is trying totalk her into having sex with him.
She successfully shoving him away is able to leave and call her husband.
Now feedback from this. Her husband texts his friend, "are you fucking real dude?"
Friend response, "I guess I too much to drink. I come over and we can talk"
Husband "not now"
And thats it....
My friend is beside herself. Her husband and this guy go back 25 years and she feels like her husband is choosing his friend over her. He won't talk to her. Just said, "I'm going to avoid (that friend) for a while"
This is sexual assault. Right? Am I seeing this right? I want her to report it and she won't because he isa friend of her husband's.
I am kind of speechless, I
I am kind of speechless, I cannot believe her husband's response, or lack thereof.
The too-much-to-drink excuse just does not fly in this situation. Maybe one would pick up a person in a bar that they normally wouldn't because they've had too much to drink, but trying to force oneself on a friend's wife is something else.
My husband collects knives; I'm pretty sure I would have to hide all of them to keep him out of jail if this happened.
Totally disgusting from any
Totally disgusting from any view.
She can press charges. I
She can press charges. I don't think she needs his permission to do so.
Explain to me again why women
Explain to me again why women are responsible for the actions of men. And why aren't men responsible for the actions of women? Wouldn't it just make more sense if every adult were responsible for his or her own self and no one else?
I said other people were
I said other people were present. She did not go there with the purpose of drinking. She was running errands and her husband asked her to stop by his friend's house where other people were drinking, male and female. She said she was going to leave and went inside to use the bathroom. Then everyone else left her alone at this friend's house. They were all gone by the time she got out of the bathroom and out of his house.
I was hoping to get feedback on the husband and friend's actions not analyzing how and why she got in the situation.
Yes, she was there for 3
Yes, she was there for 3 hours.
She showed up at a friend's house where other people were at having a good time and instead of immediately leaving, she stayed with mutual friends and had a good time too.
She had no way of knowing that someone she considered a friend as well, and in the company of others outside would turn into that
Wow, your views are just...
Wow, your views are just... wow.
I don't even have words to keep speaking with you anymore.
If Sally wants to behave like
If Sally wants to behave like her husbands dog, thats her prerogative. Why she expects other woman to do the same is beyond me.
She clearly sees men as humans who matter and have rights and women as animals who should cower and cater to men. I've lived all over the US. This isn't about where you grow up or live, its about stupidity.
Your friend should contact the police. Tell her to think about other women. What happens if this guy ever finds himself alone with a teenage girl or child?
the southern end of the
the southern end of the african continent is far different than anywhere in the US.
please quit stating how someone else sees things. that's ignorant.
OP - i am sorry about what happened to your friend. i truly am. i hope she learns steps to protect herself (flying five fisted monkey nut punch!!!). i also think her dh is handling things in his own way - not only did he call him out on it in a man's way, he seems to be pushing his friend away as he processes what happened.
yes it's sexual battery. she can take it to the cops where it'll all be hearsay but she might feel better validated. or she can think "damn what a dick move, the asshole!" and put his stupid ass in the past. it's totally up to her to decide how far she wants to pursue it, how traumatized she is, and what she needs to happen to heal.
I see what you mean. He said
I see what you mean. He said she said in the court of public opinion. And some girls might say things like this for attention although I don't think she is like that. And the responses from the men sound like things they both would say. I know them both well.
I don't know if there were marks she talked to me over the phone and I am out of town until today.