SD5 keeps telling obvious lies
First of all I understand she is a little kid and kids can lie sometimes. But I'm starting to get a little concerned on SD perspective on these stories, like she actually believe them. SD asked me this morning if I remembered when BM brought the cops to my house when SD was with me (long story BM is batshit crazy an basically didn't want to to be watching SD) well I responded to her question and said yes, then she said "my mom didn't have her car there and we had to walk all the way home" when i saw her walk with her mother to her car and leave? I explained to her that no she left with BM in her car and that I saw them leave..she kept insisting that didn't happen until I finally just changed the subject. Or she'll say "my mom never let's me eat when I'm with her" when I'm well aware even though BM is a shitty person, she feeds her child. Or she'll say "my mom doesn't let me wipe my bottom". Things that are obviously lies but it's pretty much like she's trying to stir the pot or manipulate me and DH into having more friction with BM and I'm sure she does the same with BM at her house. Has anyone experienced this? And can she at 5 years old understand the concept of what she's doing(stirring the pot to get a reaction)?
I agree! I'm like the only
I agree! I'm like the only one who noticed it and now brought it to DHs attention, it's like do I try to explain that she's wrong to her ben when he's arguing with me about it or enforce punishment for lying..I'm lost here. Keeping you in my thoughts as well!
I like your signature line
I like your signature line 'CaliforniaSM'. I'd say the kids don't need to meet ANY of the (wo)men you meet. Recent studies indicate that children of single parent homes do better in school and social interactions than do kids of step-parent homes.
Think of all this troubles and woes heard here if the parents thought of their children first instead of the nether parts of their bodies.
Thank you! And I agree, kids
Thank you! And I agree, kids are secondary now days..shame.
I also think that it's normal
I also think that it's normal behavior. Not every kid does it of course but enough do to make it a part of growing up. They're trying to find out just how much they can get away with. For instance I've found (except in Arizona) I can drive regularly 5 miles over the posted speed limit and in 55 years of driving I've never gotten a ticket. Drove right through radar speed traps doing that. I've tested the boundaries and know where to stop.
I've also told a few lies and been told I was full of bull..... Again I found the boundary.
Keep up the consequences, the rest of their world will also (other kids and school) and they'll learn the boundaries. A teeny amount have a brain deficiency which actually allows humans to literally believe their own lies. Although unlikely if this continues for a year I'd say its time to see your pediatrician for a thorough physical exam then follow the recommendations.