SD6 Extremely jealous and manipulative
Hi, i have a SD6 who is driving me crazy, she is manipulitive and lies all the time. She is nasty to my daughter 4 when she thinks no one is watching and acts like an angel when DH is around. She gets jealous if DH and I are affectionate and says, "thats my Daddy" and starts hugging and kissing him. I have tried so hard to be nice and caring but she doesn't make my life easy. She lies to her Mum and says that i didn't feed her and carries all the days happenings home to her Mum. She refuses to follow our rules and starts crying if her Dad wants to enforce them, yet my LG has to follow our rules all the time and pretty soon she will start noticing that her SS gets away with everything. Her Mum is very jealous of our relationship and always makes passes at my DH when he fetches his daughter, when i confront her she denies it but i think that she is influencing her Daughter to dislike me as she never was this bad towards me. Being pregnany my hormones are all over the place and i sometimes feel like going elsewhere when its her visiting days. This i know will hurt DH who is very loving and caring to us all. He just wants us to get along...
Oh dear I feel for you, this
Oh dear I feel for you, this sounds so familiar to me, BM needs a reality check, has she no pride, influencing a child to dislike someone is so low, its not your SD6's fault, of course things are harder to put up with when you are pregnant, you deserve some peace, my advice is the same as what I did, when my sd was due to visit my heart would pound, that little girl made my life a nightmare, she spat into my face, tripped me up and slapped my face, FDH seemed clueless, in the end I put my foot down and said he had to deal with this behaviour, I knew I had to do something or leave, I was full of resentment and so was sd6, I started by buying her something nice and built on that, I took her on bike rides, picnics, generally spent time with her, we had group hugs, FDH gradually stopped guilt parenting, it was'nt easy, it took a look of effort, but now sd6 grabs me for big hugs and loves me, I just need to send her evil mother to a far away land with no way of getting back he he, have you told her that you are not trying to take Daddy away from her? Tell here you are here to look after Daddy and will she help you. Just try to make her feel part of the family, its the only way trust me, I know you should'nt buy a childs affection, but it helped me to initially improve things. Perhaps you could also ask your sd to help you to look after her sister? Good luck x
Thanks for the advise ladies,
Thanks for the advise ladies, i have tried the route of buying her goodies and making her a part of our family outnings. Up to a point that i would buy two of each for the girls, I cared alot for her naturally and not because i had no choice. In the end she still ended up disliking me for reasons unknown to me. She gets told all the time that im not here to take her Mummy's place and that she is a part of out family and that we love her, she listens to what we saying but still it doesnt work. I dont intrude on her "Daddy time" and i make sure she has time alone with DH.To me she is just down right trouble because even though she is only 6 years old she does things that a teenager would do. Only heaven knows what the future holds when she is turns 16...