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Submitted by AdvocateSM on Mon, 10/08/2012 - 3:24pm

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My husband just got a new job as a Shipfitter(working on Naval Ships) that is Friday, Saturday, and Sunday, 6am-6pm, $19 an hour starting pay and a raise to $23 an hour in 90 days(right before our court date). Just so excited! He will be working 36 hours those three days but since it is the weekend shift he will be getting paid for 40 hours. Man I am so proud of him! He went to school and received his certification in June and we have been waiting on "the call". Had his interview today, nailed it, and they hired him! Starts next week. This is what we have been praying for every day and what we have been needing for stability. He is so happy to finally start his career and I am just so proud. Now I am too excited to see SS the day after tomorrow to do Christmas crafts lol A new relaxed feeling of calm is now over my husband and I. It is what we needed for us to stay up in life and what we need for Court for custody. So happy. Cant wait to see SS! Not so nervous anymore, not looking at him like "I hope we can get stable for you" but now thinking, "I can't wait to show that we are stable for you". When it rains it pours and it has been hailing down the last couple months but here is the light at the end of the tunnel. So happy. Just thought I would share with you as it is hard to contain my excitement Biggrin

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Submitted by AdvocateSM on Tue, 10/09/2012 - 12:24pm

Thank you yes we are so thankful and looking forward to the near future. I appreciate all your comments!

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Submitted by reallifedrama on Tue, 10/09/2012 - 3:12pm

Great news!

"what we have been needing for stability.".... Just remember, there's a lot more to life than just money when it comes to stability! Knowledge, experience, and respect are also major ingredients for stability.

Good luck in court. Do be sure to come back and share the outcome of court, please!

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Submitted by AdvocateSM on Tue, 10/09/2012 - 3:14pm

Thank you, I am sure I will keep ST posted on what goes on during the case/interactions.

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Submitted by StillStandingStrong on Wed, 10/10/2012 - 5:51pm

He just went down to the company and got his ID badge and everything made and we are both so excited! Very proud of him.

(this is Mommyto/AdvocateSM. A couple users keep getting my accounts blocked and I have to keep making them. It's okay though, I don't mind lol )

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Submitted by reallifedrama on Wed, 10/10/2012 - 6:19pm

I remember being proud of my ex-husband, who recently passed away from cancer. He worked 12 hours a day as a pizza man. He drove an hour each way back and forth to work.

When my son, who is now 19 was little, he cried about everything! He didn't sleep but about a total of 4 hours a day, and it was sporadic. He screamed at the top of his lungs and threw fits like he was possessed when he wanted something, and even when he didn't. My son had special needs. He lacked verbal communication, therefore, he became frustrated and was constantly acting out.

My husband would get up at 4 am after coming home at 12:00 am. He knew I needed a break sometimes, but he still had to work. So, he made sure he gave me breaks when he could. We became walking zombies.

It was almost impossible to go anywhere with my son, because he would constantly elope. When you are with a newborn and a five year old, its really hard to chase around a 2 year old, so my husband would take care of him on his days off so I could pay bills, shop, run errands etc.

After all of those hours of working, you would think we would have had money to enjoy life. But, my son was on a special pre-digested formula. It was very expensive and cost more in a month than our food bill. Then, we had the expense of a school for him.

My husband helped me with the wash, cleaning, and the care of our children. We almost NEVER got a break, or alone time. We were constantly doing for our children. We didn't have money left to do anything on the rare occasion that someone would watch my son.

My ex-husband made about what your husband will be making.

I'm happy to hear that your husband got a job, but I just hope that you are proud of him for doing what he should and not expecting a big "pay day", because IF you do get his children living at your house, I can swear to you that a lot of that pride is going to turn into aggravation, frustration, and confusion. You'll wonder why you don't have any money, or time, and things won't seem so mushy, lovey dovey, sugar pie, hunny bunch anymore.

To be honest, I lost a sense of pride for my husband when we were going through everything. I felt angry that I was always dealing with my sons fits, biting, peeing, hitting, crying, tearing up, cleaning, and to top it off, two other children. I was almost pissed he "got" to go to work. I didn't feel like the money he made and the time he spent helping me were much to be proud of.

Of course, in the last few years, I realized the sacrifices he and I both made to help my son, but whatever mushy gushy, love story shit I had in my mind before all went out the window when reality hit.

I adore my ex-husband and respect him greatly for being a wonderful father. I helped care for him when he was diagnosed with cancer, but I will tell you that all we had been through took a heavy toll on us. I hope you understand wat you are in for.