I logged onto ss's school website earlier this week. He got an inschool suspension for "verbal aggression or- profanity". I also noted that he had 6 F's and 2 A's on his report card. Didnt mention this to dh (he is out of town, had difficulty getting internet access)as I didnt want to be the bearer of bad news. On Friday I checked again, and he had an out of school suspension that day for "disruptive behavior". So I did call dh and let him know-he hadnt spoke to ss since Thursday-at which time either ss or bm made dh aware of ss's grades but did not let him know about the inschool suspension. Nor about the out of school. I guess a teacher told him to do something-and he told her no he wasnt doing it and told her what he was going to do instead and then he told another student to "shut the f*** up!"-I guess that coupled with the suspension earlier in the week has gotten him kicked out for a few days.
Dh told me that ss was going to be in deep shit for awhile. I hear it, but I dont believe it. I bet he's grounded off the computer and video games for a week-maybe two tops-to be loosely monitored of course which means he can sneak on fairly frequently. What would you all think is a reasonable consequence here? I would ground one of my kids until at least the end of the grading period (which is in March)-no friends, no tv, no computer, nada. It's alittle hard for me to relate as none of my kids have ever gotten any sort of suspension. My dd did get a lunch detention a month ago because someone asked her if she thought she (the person asking) should put another's girls bra in the toilet-my dd just laughed and said, "sure"-not really thinking the girl was serious. She got a lunch detention. She sobbed and was grounded for a week-that's the worst trouble any of my kids have ever gotten in.
My dh hasnt said it yet, but I feel like ss's behavior will be ultimately excused-"well, his dad is away right now. He's having a hard time" which makes me want to barf as they 3 kids in my house havent been suspended, havent told anyone to shut the f*** up and they are a and b students whose grades have actually all went up since my dh left in November.