If this child truly does not have a medical condition and BM insists he be in diapers at his age, I would consider that abuse. That poor boy is probably ridiculed daily among his peers. If he doesn't have a mental condition already, he surely will.

If he attends a public school, something has to be going on with him. Peer pressure alone would have solved this problem as soon he started school if everything with him were fine. Who changes him in school? Does he have a para who takes care of him? If mom is getting SSI, how did she pull that off without input from the teacher/school saying there are problems present? I can't tell you how many times I've had a parent flip out because I didn't fill the SSI forms out "the right" way. Sorry but I'm not telling a bunch of lies about a student so that you can get an extra check. I hope you can get this issue resolved soon. If not, that poor child is going to catch hell in middle school.

My SD7 still wears diapers at night and I am done trying. BM and MIL had an eruption when they found out that we were trying to get SD out of diapers. MIL was the biggest issue in our case. She was soooooooo mad at me, telling me stuff like "im cruel" and that shes still little and that she will grow out of them when shes ready and that right now its not her fault she cant control herself. Weve had these discussion with DH and weve tried but it doesnt work since MIL and BM dont want to teach her to stop sleeping with diapers. BM was lazy and obsiously thats why SD is not potty trained. Diapers are the easiest answer and she didnt wanted to bother potty trainging her daughter. I dont care anymore and dont even bring it up. All I care is about my kids and I will make sure theyre thought the right thing.

my oldest son is 7 and wears a overnight to bed. However. the doctor has said that this IS a medical condition and that he cannot wake himself up to go pee at night, her son (my pediatricians for my son) had the same issues, she said aside from giving him a pill (which if he was 11 or so they would try that) that its just his body not waking up and he will grow out of it. She said she even had this alarm system for her son when he pee'd to wake him and he SLEPT through it and it woke the house though...aside from that though, all day in diapers is very odd and damaging..I would go for FC of this child and get him straightened out.

Find out if this is truly medical. Go to court if you need to to see the medical records, get a second opinion. My son had issues with wetting the bed until he was 9, he had daytime accidents until 2nd grade, perhaps a few beyond that if we didn't closely monitor his liquids. If he drank a big soda at the movie theater- he would have issues. There were times on vacation especially I'd ask him to wear pullups during the day, just because I knew there could be issues. He was perfectly potty trained, just sometimes he wouldn't know he had to go until it was too late.

It is a pretty sensitive issue, No one wants to be the mom of the kids that wets themselves. Perhaps diapers are the more practical solution. Having been there when my son was in 2nd grade and had to go home 'cos he wet... I might have sent him to school in pull ups too. Instead we went to about 3 urologists until he got some help dealing with it. Partly, my son has ADHD and can get so distracted and busy with what he's doing, he never remembers to go. His ADHD medications help him greatly with that, as did simple maturity and a desire not to embarrass himself. And he did grow out of it, but up until he was around 10, he simply wouldn't wake up to go to the bathroom at night. 15% or so of kids still wet the bed at age 8, it's not like they're doing it on purpose.

I just have to comment because my SD7 still has issues at night staying dry. Does he wear pull ups or actual diapers? I would assume its got to be difficult finding diapers in his size unless he is very small for his age. I was also wondering about school. How does the school deal with it. I didnt think schools allowed un-potty trained children that wasnt related to anything medical. I do know how frustrating it can be as I mentioned that my SD7 still wears one at night because she doesnt get up at night to go potty when she has to go. If you need a friend or someone to talk to, please feel free to add me as a friend. Have a wonderful day!

Katie

I understand what you are going through. My SD is 6 and her BM puts pull-ups (or diapers if she's out of pull-ups) on her at night. She tried to claim it as medical but since we get her for every summer, we know it's not true. My husband and I have 'cured' her of this since the age of 3. She never wet with us in tthe summer and the day she would go back she was back in pull ups. Have you tried to take them off again and teach him now that he's older? Remember to be positive because all he hears is that he's not capable and he has issues... I'm sure any kid would continue to wet if they don't have someone telling them they can actually do it. I know it's hard, but you can be that person. As of now, we are wanting to have my SD because it's just not right to do that to a child... does anyone know if that is sufficient enough to do it?

She collects SSI for him?

Have you called the SS determination board and reported possible fraud?

I believe they take anonymous tips, and what's going on sounds like abuse for financial gain...jmho

SD's are 6 and 8...they are still in pullups at night....BM makes excuses she has had them tested for diabetes...and all kinds of other things...blood tests - ridiculous things - like she wants to make excuses for her poor parenting skills - she sends them to bed with drinks...it's ridiculous - that is just sick that they are 10 - you need to records all of these accidents - take it to a lawyer or something this is going to screw this kid up - and YOURS.

Sometimes bed wetting is caused by food intolerance.