After BM banning me from the kids, I have disengaged and I am loving it. I have not even seen the skids for the past month and I could not be happier. (I do not live with my boyfriend of 1 year, which is why I am able to never see them). I thought I would miss being around the skids, but I feel the complete opposite. Not to sound selfish, but this past month has actually brought to light the limitations and stresses the skids bring into my life (especially the extreme special needs status of SS11). I feel like I am back to myself!

Since my BF has them 50% of the time, he complains a lot about my complete absence, but, for once, I need to think about myself. I am not asking anything of him (ie I am not asking him to spend less time with his kids to spend time with me), and so he really doesn't have a right to ask me to keep putting up the verbal assaults and stresses that BM brings to my life. It is so nice to make plans with my friends and carry on with my life without the guilt of feeling like I should be with him and his kids. Then the other 50% of the time I get to hang out with my BF, completely uninterrupted. It has also saved me a lot of money b/c I no longer feel like I have to buy things or take the skids places - since BF and BM cannot afford much.

BM actually did me a great favor by banning me from her kids! Thanks, BM!!