I don't know if anyone saw my other posts about my bf's pregnant neice i'll call p.n. My longterm bf and i have lived together as a married couple for several years. One of my reasons for being hesitant about marrying him is because of his family. They have alot of issues and are very needy. I have tried to keep them at arms length for the entire time we have been together and have been pretty successful up until now. My bf doesn't have kids and i was thrilled about that but his siblings do and in his family everyone takes care of each other and each others kids. They are very close, ridiculously close and they don't know how to have boundaries. So one of my bf's brothers daughters who is 18 and pregnant came to stay with us in Oct. after a fight with her father in which he hit her and bruised her up pretty good. She is rude and disrespectful and i've heard how she talks to him and its pretty bad but he should have left the house and went for a walk or something instead of letting his temper get the best of him. So they didn't speak for a good while and while she was with us all her needs were taken care of by us. She was 17 and just turned 18. She had no job and needed money for transportation, her hair, clothes and everything else. We are not rich mind you. I kept telling my bf that he needed to get money from his brother to help us out while she was with us but that never happened. So now she has been staying over at her fathers for the past 2 weeks. She said they don't talk, she just stays in her room. So i'm thinking now that she feels safe enough to be back there she can take her stuff that we don't really have room for back over there and give us our keys back so i don't have to worry about her coming in when ever she wants to. I'm thinking good, we don't have to worry about spending our money on her anymore. Imagine my surprise when she called after 11pm last night to tell my bf she needed her cellphone bill payed. He hemmed and hawed and said let me talk to your father about that, he was afraid to say he would pay it because i was there and afraid to tell her he wouldn't pay it because she would be mad. I love him to death he is a good man that is why he gets taken advantage of but he has a hard time telling people no. Especially family. I was pissed. I could hear her complaining because she is that loud. After he hung up i said to him why does she expect you to pay her phone bill. She is grown she is not a kid and she has a father whom she is speaking to again and living with, why is she asking you for money. He was quiet. I went on and on about how she is using him and taken advantage of him and i'm sick of it. I want her stuff gone and our keys back and i don't want him spending anymore money on her. I asked him why he feels he is responsible for her, why does he keep giving her money. He said because he is her uncle and he is suppose to be there for her and he doesn't want her to feel that she doesn't have anyone to turn to. This girl is a user. She doesn't come over or even call to say i'm staying at my fathers tonight. We didn't see her all week and now she calls all late at night when we were in the bed to ask for money. I'm losing it. I'm so angry. I can't move out i can't afford it. I have nowhere to run to. This is my damn home. I'm not close to my family and i don't have friends i feel i can ask for help never mind vent to. People hear my situation and they think my bf is a saint for helping his neice and i'm a witch for not wanting to help. Especially when they hear that her father hit her. Well she doesn't seem to be afraid of him anymore. Plus she wouldn't have to be afraid if she didn't talk to him like he is her age, telling him off and not wanting to listen and do what he says to do. She recently got into it with her stepmom who she was staying with too. She doesn't like to listen and she likes to do what she wants and she expects everyone to take care of her and do things for her and be happy about it. She doesn't get that it costs money. She doesn't even appreciate it. She acts like shes entitled. I want to tell her off. She knows i am not happy with her behavior and she knows i don't like that my bf spends money on her. We had to buy her an expensive damn winter coat. She got new boots too. She keeps rubbing it in my face telling me, i love my coat, its so nice. My coat is so warm. My coat this and my boots that. She knows i was mad because i kept telling her before we got the coat that her father needs to buy her a winter coat because its getting cold. I kept saying you need to get money from your father to get a coat. Well she never did, we bought the coat. She keeps saying my uncle buys me stuff, my uncle did this and my uncle did that. She doesn't get that when he spends money he is spending our money. That money is coming from me too. I know i babbled on and on for a long time and i'm sorry i'm just overwhelmed and feel stuck and i don't know how to deal with my anger. I can't leave and my bf is so passive when it comes to his family. He said i want to make sure that she is going to be ok before i tell her to stay there, i want to give her another week to see if they can still get along. Like he is going to be able to say come get your stuff, give us our keys back and stop asking me for money, next week. He won't be able to say it. He was struggling last night on the phone when she asked for money. He didn't want to say no then, and he didn't, he said he'd let her know tomorrow. If it weren't snowing today she would have come over here in person to ask him for the money. She is a trip. I just don't know what to do. I told him that i'm going to talk to her myself and tell her we can't give her anymore money and he said no, i'll tell her myself. I can't stand it anymore. She is coming between us. I said to him don't you see how she is coming between us. We are always arguing about her and she is not even your daughter. I shouldn't be going through this. You have no kids, why am i going through this? I know alot of you will say leave him but i'm not in the financial situation to do that if i even wanted to. I really want us to work out we have been together too long he is my family. I wish we could just move away from here. I just need a place to vent though and i don't know where else to go. I hope i can get some support here. I'm at my wits end.