If Granny wants to spend the money, no problem there. BUT when she turns her nose up at less expensive gifts from Dad, then she's being an elitist brat and no one likes a brat. Someone has taught her to be a snob which is no good for anyone but certainly not for a child.
They are going to set her up to be a Princess and when she's older, she won't be fit for any one to deal with. They'll be in the poor house when nothing is ever enough for her...

My sd13 got a Vera Bradley bag too, 110 bucks!! She doesn't even know who it is, it's currently on the floor of the closet, and the dog was chewing on it earlier. She used it for a day. I then confiscated a purse she has ad since Christmas and never used, and of course she had to have it then (from target). Unbelievable!! And ungrateful, kid didn't even thank gma for the bag.

Honestly, a garage sale gift is kinda... well, maybe I'm snobby, but unless you're flat broke, I wouldn't do that.
$100 bookbag is nothing special, IMO. Hell, my kids' school backpacks are between $50-85, and they're just backpacks.
Of course, my DD12 just got a Coach purse for her 12th birthday last week. (I didn't give it to her.)

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I think this is just more proof that kids these days are being bought instead of parented. Maybe that's what the OP was driving at?? Geez, the kid is all of 8 for pete's sake, lol. :O

I wouldn't even know where to buy Vera Bradley, so I must be the epitome of low brow. Lol.

I'm surprised how much kids' backpacks cost this year, though. My boys (13, almost 14, and the other just turned 13, both 8th grade) specifically asked for backpacks from Target. Well, the bags were $65 each. I wonder if they know they could have had Burton or Dakine bags for that price.

Do you know for sure that the grandma bought the bag new? I'm only mentioning it because my aunt and grandmother often make disparaging remarks about the fact that my purse-toting daughters (10,9, and 5) have designer backpacks and name brand gym bags. The thing is, I shop mostly consignment stores. My 9 year old carries a really nice Guess bag with a matching wallet and sun glass case. The bag retails for $119. I paid $11. I couldn't have bought her a kiddie purse at Wal Mart for that. She always has Gap and Gymboree, Lands End... Clothes that hold up. Danskos and Keens. I buy everything consignment or off EBay or Amazon. You'd be shocked what you can find if you have the time and learn the tricks.

I think what the poster was getting at was that Grandma bought an expensive VB backpack for the SD... and then the SD turned her nose up at the purse her BD bought her.

Just an FYI - I have VB stuff... NOT the floral print crap, because I'm just not a floral person. But the solid microfiber is kinda cool (black, blue, brown, neon colors), and I have to admit my briefcase and backpack have held up for years and years.

When my DD14 went to a school carnival once when she was about 8 or so... she played a game and won a prize, it was a little VB purse! And a real one! But we live in the midwest and that's where VB is located. Every year they have a huge sale where everything goes really cheap. People from all over the US come for a week to shop the sale so there's lots of stuff out there that people are selling for less than retail.

yes, it may have been a little bit about how much the backpack costs. But the bigger issue is then what her dad bought her didn't "measure up" and the SD was more than willing to let him know that.

All the girls aged 5-18 carry Vera Bradley here lunch boxes, and backpacks and everything else. Some get them with Groupons, some get them at the outlets, and some pay full price. Who knows how they got them and who really cares? Trends often make little sense...

Be happy you didn't have to pay $100 for a quilt back pack.

Would I spend that kind of money on a child's bag, no. But I couldn't care less what others do. People spend more on a gift than they do for just everyday spending. I see nothing wrong with Grandma spending her money on a gift for her granddaughter how ever she likes. I spend more for good name brand clothing as gifts for my nieces than I do for everyday clothes for my kids.... That's just because its ment to be a nice gift.

The issue I have is her ungreatful reaction to the gift from her father. By 8 years old she should have been taught better manners and to graciously accept gifts whether she likes them or not. Being rude and acting like a spoiled brat is unacceptable. But I don't really understand why dad went and got her another bag when she already had one that she liked?

I had to go look up what one of these bags even was.....shows how out of touch I am, lol.

I haven't read all these comments yet, but I can relate. SD12 has a smartphone, ipad (which is already broken), gets her hair dyed every month. There's more but I can't remember everything she has at the moment. I can't even afford all of this for myself and I have a good job. Not that I would want everything in the world. It's ridiculous.