Update.

Well not only did I not get a fkin thing my two step sons decided to steal all of the candy there grand mother put into LABELED buckets with my neices and nephews NAMES on them. I lost it. This is the third time in a week and a half ss11 has got cought stealing and my SS12 is on probation for credit card fraud for over 3 grand. How does mommy help in raising them. She fking takes them to I HOP and rents them a movie yesterday while I'm at work . Then to boot after working all day I walk up our steps and ss 11 is playing with h oou a remote control helicopter and SS12 is stuffing his fat face with candy. Im already pissed at the lack of follow through on her part and I shit u not as . Im in the shower she tells me that she dosnt have it in her to stay mad or upset at them. Oh yeah that right I guess being all nicev is why his P.O. is ready to let him off aftrer only a couple of months. Mommy gives a glowing report. She thinks I overreactec when I broke all the arrows to ss11 bow I got him for Christmas right in front of him. Told him ill buy new ones when I can trust him again. I told he no im sick of being lied to stolen from and jyst plane being used and manipulated. So now its my fault they get rewarded for bad behavior. We went on thebporch to have a smoke and I let her speak her mind and I just shut up aft err finally eating at 830 last night. For over a half hour all heard was excuse after excise why they do the h things they do. And was told yet agai about how she dosnt hhave it in her to stay upset. She even told me that its unfair to not have time limits on punishments i agrer with her but to basicaly fkin reward them the next day.wtf. . I know in my heart this isnt gping to last. I shouldve stayed gone a couple I months ago when I left but insted I met with her and our pastor and was guilted into returning (long story). I literaly hate even just hearing the boys voices or even seeing them.im so at a loss at how or what to do. There's a lot more details to what I posted but im sick of excuses. I have done more than any other person has ever done for those two boys. Even my wifes brothers and sisters are surprised I came back and worked it out. HER OWN FAMILY . I love her but I dont know how much more I can tske of this. U gggg shouldve just stayed gone

Sorry about all the miss spelled words and grammar. Im doing this on a smart phone with auto correct turned off and im typing with my thumb. Every time I type or misspell it sends me directly to the top of the page. Its sad that its saturday morning and I wish I was at work. I talked to my step mom yesterday. Shes been with my dad for over 15 years and I put her through hell. I love her more than words can express. She helped me get sober after coming homerom the army and having a really bad 3 years They almost arrested her on assault 2 years ago in the hospital when she punched me while I wad strapped to the bed lmao. (Suicide attempt that nearly succeed. Lost a buddy overseas and drinking didn't help) shes even asking me why I came back to this. I guess I dont want to fail. Failure is not and option for an infantryman. I feel like im banging my head bbc.co on the wall and w oundering why I have a headache lol. Its funny how you can see it in front of you but not correct the situation.

No head injury while in. I decided it was a good idea to cage fight when I got out and well a severe concusionn with swelling of the brain didnt feel to good. I was diagnosed with severe rheumatoid arthritis three months ago after 6 months of debilitating pain in my ankles wrists and fingers.i dont whine about it. I get up take my steroids and put my boots on and go frame houses (mansions) all day. Tactical withdrawal. I love the sound of that. I so want to wake my ss sons up with a flash bang and screaming some mornings just to get there entitled lazy butts outa bed lol

I agree with part of what you said STILL LEARNING I respectfully disagree with the breaking of things. I have tried EVERY avenue with both of the boys. From grounding to racking the yard to hour long talks. The other night I just had it. I broke his arrows to get the point across to him. I did explain later why I did what I did to him. Both of these boys are the type thst honestly just dont give two shots aboit anyone but themself. My wife was a single mom for the past 8 years due to there dad going to prison. His rights have been terminated. He committed federal fraud, raped his sister in law and molested his kids. So when he lefy she worked full time and made every excuse in the world for the way they act. . I mean when we met the 12 year old knew every password to her bank account her pay pal and knew how much mommy made. She has had numerous boyfriends that have came and went. I sit back and listen to her talk and I hear the common theme that there was no discipline with her boys. She was engaged for 2 years to one guy guy and I quote "I was with him because I thought he would be good to you two. I thought he would help raise you." Yes she actually said thst to her boys infront of me. She even told me inthe car other night that she didnt know how she was going to be able to afford her old place after he moved out. The same place I moved into without knowing that.my SS12 has physically attacked me three times. The last timevwss the day before his first PO appointment. We went and I listened to her give a glowing report to the lady and my wife got pissef every time I opened my mouth.SS11 has been babied and given EVERYTHING he wants and I cought on the first month to that. . He would lie and steal from mom grandma or even the store. I knew for a few months that he's been ganking candy and toys but couldnt prove it. My biggest battle is I have to sit back and let it blow up in my wifes face so she can see it. DTZYBLND is right that I will not lower my expetations. These two boys have learned to manipulate lie and steal without remorse or consequence for years. I told them both the other night that if ithappens one second after they turn 17 out the door they go. I mean to come home and see through the window my wife blindly sitting at he table while they are playing with to us from christmas the day after they got cought and to have her tell me she didnt know the punishment that I layed out.so thstths ts why they got rewarded with I HOP and a movie. I have stepped back since then. . My 2 1/2 son has a severe allergy to corn so he has a special di etc including snacks. Came out this morning and ss12 has ate half the box we bought my son. After We went to bed. stuff like that Is why im at this point of frustration. Total lack of respect and no lasting consaquance. Well im off. Gotta get everyone up for church. And put on my happy face.