Was MIL taking jabs?
Our relationship is over however looking back I am wondering if my former MIL was taking jabs at me. I came here looking for validaiton. Overall MIL was nice to me and would take me out and include me in things however she would always make comments about blue collar people (I am blue collar) in general that were negative and would brag about how successful certain people were that she knew and that seems how she valued people. I always felt this was passive agressive of her. Also her darling son (my ex) would go off on her at times (when driving, discussing money issues, etc) and she would take issue with it obviously but when he would go off on me for the same reasons she would say it was my fault and I was not understanding enough, etc. I guess I am looking for validation and that is why I am here.
It could’ve been jabs or it
It could’ve been jabs or it could’ve just been her being an arrogant ass. Hard to tell without hearing the actual conversation. But I’ve always felt like people who talk crap about blue collar workers are extremely insecure and only do so to try to make people feel below them.
There’s value both blue collar and white collar work and anybody that claims otherwise is full of crap.
Darlin' the only validation
Darlin' the only validation you need is from yourself and the best thing you did is not be in that relationship anymore & having to deal with MIL. Who cares what she does or doesn't like or think. MIL and your X are no longer a factor in your life. Don't allow them to rent anymore precious space in your mind.
I don't get
I don't get the snotty atitude with "blue collar" versus "white collar." First of all, DH and I can't fix our own cars, pipes, or electricity so without blue collar people we would be walking to the office and peeing in a bucket in the dark. And second, the amount of money that can be made on these necessary services is mind-boggling. Have you had your air conditioning go out recently? Girl, please!
Without Blue Collar there is
Without Blue Collar there is no White Collar... and visa versa.
I have led craft, trades (Blue Collar organizations) for decades. The combination of strong technical, hands on, and leadership excellence makes for an incredibly capable organization and high incomes for all in the organization. For most of my career I have had team members who have earned more than I have though I led those organizations. As seasoned trades/craft professional is a rare talent and a very skilled and respected contributor.
Most who take issue with blue collar contributors probably have never worked a day in their lives.
My guess is that your blessely XMIL qualifies.
Of course there is nothing
Of course there is nothing wrong with blue collar workers. But for her, her precious darling child deserved a white collar worker (sarcasm). It just goes to show you how delusional and full of themselves these mother in laws really are. Or at least she didn't want her daughter in law to feel good enough about herself so she had to take her down a notch. Maybe she wanted her son to be single and alone like herself and this was her way of causing problems and chasing the daughter in law away. MIL had too many issues to count. I felt sorry for her because she was widowed and I empathised with her. She was extremely overweight and all of her grown adult children(who were well into their late 30's) were still dependent on her. One was still living in her home and the other was hitting her up for money constantly. I also found out later on that she was verbally abusive towards her now deceased husband during their marriage. She was obsessed with controlling her kids and grandkids and brainwashed them from an early age causing them to dislike or like certain people and things. Very odd if you ask me.
meh......
meh......
So, if your employer has education benefits start chipping away at your Bachelor's degree. Once you finish.... make the move to leadership and enjoy shutting MIL up.
You prosper, you win, she weasles.
I agree. Very odd.