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what our husbands owe us

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Submitted by SugarSpice on Sun, 01/14/2018 - 1:35am

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this is not me ranting.

it was written in an online journal.

at least someone is thinking. this came out in december.

enjoy.

https://www.huffingtonpost.com/joel-schwartzberg/what-remarried-dads-owe...

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Submitted by fairyo on Sun, 01/14/2018 - 3:47am

Spot on! Yesterday I finally caught up with a childhood friend I hadn't seen for 47 years! There was a lot of taking of course, during which I told her of my present issues with DH and his family. I was very surprised when she agreed with me entirely! She told me she had been through it in a relationship with a man who had a daughter. She didn't stay! If only I'd kept in touch with her...!

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Submitted by DaniAM73 on Sun, 01/14/2018 - 6:32am

A great read. As fairyo stated SPOT ON. I can relate to all of this. Especially my privacy being invaded. I have become a master at hiding things when those spawns are here.

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Submitted by Rags on Sun, 01/14/2018 - 1:46pm

As a SDad ... this applies equally to StepDads as it does to SMoms. A few things to add to the StepParents Bill of Rights.

Great read. Thanks for sharing.

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Submitted by Dontfeedthetrolls on Sun, 01/14/2018 - 11:37pm

It's missing support.

He owes me his support in being a caretaker to his child.

That's the one I've noticed lacking here alot.

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Submitted by still learning on Mon, 01/15/2018 - 2:51pm

Maybe I'm old school but I also think our husbands owe us monetary support. If a man can barely support his previous family then he has no business taking on another one.

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Submitted by Rags on Thu, 04/12/2018 - 1:24pm

I was raised by Ward and June Cleaver types.  Dad was the provider, mom was the glue that kept it all together and the lubricant that kept it all working smoothly. For the past 8 years since they retired... watching them figuring it all out under the new paradigm has been extremely entertaining.  They still do it together but their different world is one that they are enjoying learning together.

I believe that a man should support his bride and kids.  I am even okay with a swap of that paradigm. However, I am gernerally not fine with a man not supporting his spous and his marriage to the best of his ability.  Yes, parents should absolutely support their children even when they may no longer be an initial family. But... if a man can't support his wife and any additional kids that he may have... he has no business having a wife or more kids.