2 weeks go my boyfriend's daughter decides she's staying with BM on his night. The following week comes and again she stays at BM house claiming "I miss my mommy time". They have 50/50 custody. He hasnt seen her in 2 weeks. BM calls and says you can have her on Monday. He put his foot down and said "no I'll see her on my night" which is Wednesday

We sat down and talked about it and we arnt going to let her run our family. No longer do I make my schedule around her and making sure I'm home for afterschool just to find out she isnt coming. I leave that to him. He is the father after all. I make my plans. People talk about it sucks the love out of a relationship and I can relate. It was boom over night we went from bf/gf of only a month to having a 12 year old and all her situations.

So I make time for me, I'm making time at the gym a priority. Saturdays are our day just the 2 of us.

I care about this girl a lot. I've known her most of her life but I hate what she does to her father and I will not let it hurt 'us'

We've had the best 2 weeks since putting our relationship first and making us work. The dynamics of a 12 year old change daily.