why do fathers lose their balls when facing the skids?
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dh and i had an argument about some silly household matter. as expected came the withholding and threats, hints that he was going to divorce me and that all (yes, all) his unhappiness was because of me.
of course the lights of his life are the skids. now that they are adults, he can be best pals with him and even start making their friends and spouses, sig others, friends of his.
i told him to man up and he said he was. with me that is.
i said its about time because he never could when the skids were teens and always calling him names to his face and sassying him.
Maybe in your case it is as
Maybe in your case it is as simple as the fact that he has no issue with how the kids are, their behaviors, how they treat him, or their boundaries. If that is the case... you either have to let it go or move on. He isn't going to change if the status quo is working for him.
I could not stay with a man who told me ALL his problems centered around me, even if he said it in anger.
They are all scared they will
They are all scared they will loose their kids so when push comes to shove they feel like they don't have any choice but to throw the stepmom under the bus. And they do blame the stepmom, after all, if she would just shove her head up the sks asses like he does then there wouldn't be a problem!
Not all do. When I got lippy
Not all do. When I got lippy when I was 16 my dad called my bluff. I had spent my sophomore year at a very nice but liberal boarding school where the students pretty much set their own schedules and activities. I went skiing, rock climbing, and spelunking and did not get out of bet until lunch time on most school days. Needless to say I did not pass any of the formal classes that year. So, my parents decided I would go to the place that they knew I would study, my dad's HS alma matter. Military School. All summer long I stewed on the military school issue and when we completed our summer vacation and my dad was flying home to get back to work my mom stayed to put me in school. As we were waiting for dad to board I told him "I am not going to military school." He opened his brief case, pulled out his checkbook, wrote a check and handed it to me and said "You are 16 and don't have to go to school. Here is $500 to get you started. Make sure you write to your mother when you figure out where you are going to live and when you have a job." When they called the boarding of his flight I handed him the check back and gave him a hug. I did not need to say a word. He got his point across perfectly.
I spent my second sophomore year, Jr. year and Sr. year at the military school.