I have 3 bios - D12, S9, S5 and SD14; I have been with her since 2. Her BM and I have had our ups and downs. Recently we are down and going straight down...
Last year SD and her SF had a huge blowout and her BM basically chose SD. So SD has come to live with us for over a year. The last year has been HELL. DH and I fight ALL THE TIME; I have been packed and ready to go twice. We have tried it with me in charge, me on the sidelines, and most recently disingaged. This girl is ruthless, self-centerd, an A+ liar, fake, and just plain snotty. She even started a fight betweeen my best friend and I....DH tries to hard to make her mother; but honestly I think neither of us want that. I said I would be her friend, NOTHING else. I don't want to make decisions I don't want to give rides. I just don't want to do it.

I have been trying for the past year; DH would always be on my case about her; meanwhile her BM hasn't seen her since Mother's Day for 3 hours!! He wont say a word to BM about it but won't hesitate to say things to me; I think that's why I'm so turned off from having a relationship with her??