Wife defends kid's poor behavior
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Whenever stepkids are misbeaving (lying, throwing tantrums, being mean to the family pet, etc) and I mention it my wife defneds her kids and even defends them in front of me. She also gets very anrgy at me for accuisng her previous kids of doing something wrong. It makes me look foolish and allows her kids to keep acting like hooligans. It's gotten to where Ive considered divorce. What should I do? Is it normal that I contemplate divorcing her regularly?
My wife got mad at me because
My wife got mad at me because I (nicely) confronted her son (9) about lying about having a fever. He’s done this many times. I also caught him kicking and shoving the family dog to which she defended him and said it was accidental and how dare I accuse him of doing something like that. She yelled at me for it. It’s amazing to me how these parents defend their kids bad behaviors. When he grows up he’s going to end up either very entitled, with his life being a mess, or in jail.
Sad - but not a skid problem,
Sad - but not a skid problem, you have a wife problem and it looks like a huge relationship issue.
You really have 2 options
You and wife get on the same page when it comes to skid.
Or you divorce.
Disengaging is one thing - but not when you have a skid running amuck in the home.
Oh, yes, you have a wife
Oh, yes, you have a wife problem.
I agree: get on the same page as your wife.
OR... never be alone with the skid. EVER. Let your wife handle EVERYTHING. And if the brat is deliberately being mean to the poor dog, do the dog a huge favor and rehome him.
OR... move out with the dog and get a divorce.
The kids behaviour (lying,
The kids behaviour (lying, throwing tantrums, being mean to the family pet, etc) and your wife's defence of it, is a direct reflection of her poor parenting and low standards/expectations for her kids. These are her core values in action. It goes along with her disregard for your opinion on the kids and their patently unacceptable behaviour. It is absolutely normal to want to dis-associate yourself from this - even by contemplating divorce: it is not normal or constructive when your home is a Mom enabled freak show!
I agree with dysfunctionally_blended that you can not disenage when the kids are out of control. It only gets worse and it is you tolerating unacceptable behaviour by ignoring it. Been there, done that and it is part of the reason I am getting divorced.
You need to agree with your wife as to what is acceptable behaviour within the home and enforce it, or tolerate the intolerable and live in a home with feral hooligans by ignoring them, or you raise your standards and get out.
I've read all of your posts,
I've read all of your posts, and have to say I don't care for the way your wife treats you at all. She is inconsiderate, dismissive, and downright rude to you, both in public and at home.
Yelling at you, especially in front of the children?? Unacceptable, period dot.
What are you getting out of the relationship? Why do you accept mistreatment?
Take the dog, divorce the
Take the dog, divorce the woman.
You and the dog will be happier