There is a long backstory to this but to get up to today's issue dh has primary of ss as of 3 or 4 yrs now. Of course bc bm can't stop messing her own life up.

We find out recently she's been leaving her 3 or maybe all 4 kids unattended while she "works" or does whatever she does all night. One of her kids told on her saying she was scared being left alone with her siblings. Cps got involved and bm is under investigation now. 

We also asked ss about this and he says yes this has happened twice before. We were shocked he told us bc he doesn't ever tell us anything that goes on over there. He also admitted he does not like this. Which makes sense bc he's the oldest of the 4 and what child wants to manage 2 or 3 other kids alone. Cps calls us and asks ss the same questions. He tells them the same and she asked if hes been left with a way to communicate and he says no. 

We had no idea they'd been left alone multiple times overnight with no supervision. Terrible so dh says yea he's not going back til cps or court changes this. We'll cps has been involved before back in 2021 and that's how things changed from dh being secondary to primary parent. It was made temp thru cps until we got a lawyer to make it permanent a yr later. In that temp time of 9mts ss did not go there at all while the other dads allowed it and of course had consequences for it.

Anyways this is happening again it seems but this time we are primary. Dh does not feel he needs to go to court right now bc has primary of ss so he feels it's best he just keep him. But he is technically going against the current CO where she gets weekends. So not sure with us being primary if there's some kind of difference. I understand dh bc we've been the ones always having to pay for a lawyer to take her to court repeatedly before it changed back in 2021. So he's like he's primary so she can pay for court and a lawyer. Idk I think Monday we should have some type of back up. It's expensive so we want to make sure this is something we need to do now or would he be in the right since she's technically neglecting her kids? Has anyone dropped the CO and it worked out? Maybe cps would make the temp change and we can keep him anyway? She shouldn't have gotten overnights back in 2021....so for this to happen it's insane. We told and showed how untrustworthy she was and yea I feel they'll be once again Lenient. Very sad. The worst has already happened back them. Idk what this corrupted county she lives in is waiting for