DH got his CS modified. Is this a little better now? (CA)
DH got his CS modified during a settlement with BM. He is not making what he used to back in '03. BM doesnt wanna work so DH was gonna pay an evaluator to interview her put a number for an income for her instead of "0.00". He payed for the evaluator and got his money back thank God ... because she didn't wanted to provide all the docs and go to an interview, with one word it was too much work for her lazy butt so she agreed on putting 50K for an income for her since that's about what she cam make right now if she works.
CS was $1150 and now its $750. He owed her about 5K because he was making partial payments since last October. Now he will only have to pay 2k and that is going straight to her attorney's. They're making him pay partial amount to for her attorneys fees and her total are about 12k and they agreed for him to pay 3K which I still think its not fair since she decided to get an expensive attorney!! She asked for 5K!! Also we have 1 baby and another on the way and we got a lil help to reduce the CS with them about $40 each which is redicilously small amount since SD is getting $750 but go figure the courts!!!
He had SD every other weekend Fri 5:30PM-Sun Noon and every monday overnight. Now He got every other weekened Fri 5:30-Sunday 7PM and Wednesday for a few hours, 5-7PM I think. They also made him put 7K in college trust fund for SD since he didnt do that back when it was their first court. He didn't want to pay her attormeys so he decided to put 5K in college trust fund and over the years interest build and now theyre making him deposit 7K over 3 year period. He also requested her to drive since hes been doing all the drive and now he will be picking up SD and when it comes time for her to go back, her mom will come to get her. (pull by the curb-no interaction with us)
We live in CA.
How does all that sound? We still think $750 is an OUTRAGEOUS amount for a 7y/o plus the fact that DH also pays for her insurance. DH says if they would of gone infront of the judge, the judge would of most likely order him pay ALL her attorney fees and pay the 5K difference because he was making partial CS payments since last October. He also doesn't think judge would of agreed on $750 from $1150, most likelyaround $900.
CS Modified Is this fair enough? (CA)
Tell me about it. It's not
Tell me about it. It's not fair.
What makes me sick is that our 2 babies only lowered CS by $80 but SD costs $750 a month and the worst is that not even half goes for her but for her lazy mom that doesn't wanna work, has a masters and bachelors! Now she found her dog, manipulated him and managed to make him marry her since her clock is ticking, and all she has to do now is sit at home all day, scratching her ass while getting paid. It's a business to go screw guys up and live off CS. I was calculating that by 18 SD, the total SC will be around $230, 000 and thats not even including insurance or what we buy her when shes here. 
We also have to try and look at the bright side. Just from that modification we're saving about 48, 000 for the next 10 years until SD turns 18.
I have come to realize that
I have come to realize that even if i get mad over it nothing will change now for a long time, maybe bring her back for more modification later on. But its not fair and every time i think about it i get so frustrated
its so unfair. And we dont even communicate with BM, just dh and her txt eachother before theyre picking up sd. We are far away from respecting eachother but thats another subject lol. With a few words - she should of shut up and just take her effin CS instead for the first 2 years since dh and i met she tried to destroy our relationship, alienated sd from us and turned MIL against us where MIL didnt even show up at our wedding nor at our babies birth. And that person basically steals money from us each month 
this is the one thing in life where i cannot do anything about and its very stressful to just accept it because i am a person of changes, if i am not happy about something i believe in change for better but in this case were stuck with that cunt for 10 more years...
Crazyness...I have to
Crazyness...I have to say...my favorite sentences was your last..."were stuck with that..." hehe...I know the feeling. Everyday we struggle...we have lost all MY money thanks to the those losers...now my mother has to worry (I didn't tell her, someone else did...sigh) about us eating every month...I tell you, when this crap is over that woman will be sorry she ever met me. I have the freaking papers for all the lies she has told printed out and ready to be mailed to her loser daughter the day DH stops support...her game will stop! And of course, I'll be sure to also drop it by the idiot's MOTHER's house since the idiot mother LOVED my DH so much, but somehow changed her mind...she'll now see what a pathetic daughter she raised...and I tell you, IT WILL HAPPEN! I could care less if the loser baby mama dropout skid ever sees her father again...she has been so close to destroying MY SON"s life it's not even funny...I could care less at this point how their lives are turned upside down by it...
Im sorry for what youre going
Im sorry for what youre going thru!
everyone on here has their story and none of them are nice. I believe in karma and these evil manipulating BMs of our stepkids will get theirs in the butt soon or later. Theyre trying to ruin and make our life difficult and it is so selfish!! And because of their childish mind, their kids will end up being screw ups. Not good examples for kids at all. Almost like teaching your child to be criminal, judgemental etc. BM has bad mouthed us so much to SD7 and guess how much respect shell have for us one day and what a person she will turn out to be! I am blessed to have a good mother that has raised me well and today i am proud to be a good person. And BM is a nut job, slowly turning SD into a mini version of herself. I am so not looking forward her teen years. The best advice i can give you is mind your business, your family and try to ignore all the bs because life is short. One day when im old i wanna look back and remember the good life, not a life that i spent letting BM get into me. Our step kids grow, our kids grow and move on with their lifes and at the end its you and your partner. 