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Submitted by tnic779 on Tue, 04/01/2014 - 9:21am

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My BS's donor covers his health insurance by court order BUT he will not send me new insurance cards policy specifics etc. Haven't spoken to him in over a year and a half. I called member services they said I need a form, a quimsical? Signed by a judge saying I can have my son's policy information if not I have to continue to use the ins card I have and guess at coverage!! Has anyone heard of this???

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Submitted by Disneyfan on Tue, 04/01/2014 - 9:40am

DF had to take BM to court and have a judge order her to give him a copy of the insurance cards.

It didn't cost him anything to have this done.

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Submitted by tnic779 on Tue, 04/01/2014 - 10:32am

this is a great idea, I'm to thrown off to think of common sense things... I could copy the CO and highlight where is says he's responsible for this, and a copy of the bills from the recent surgery, hopefully it works!! Thankfully he lives 2000 miles away from me:) i'm saved from face to face.

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Submitted by tnic779 on Tue, 04/01/2014 - 10:27am

Yes I had a relationship with him at one time but he is considered a donor BC he stated in court he doesn't want my son. I'll quote it for you "your honor he is her son I have 4 other kids and 4 step kids to worry about he is her problem" so as far as "stuffing out" the bio CHOSE this NOT me. I never wanted anything from him including child support BC of the way he treated my son after he left us to be with his now wife b/c her son was "older and could do more things" My son was 9 months, her son was 6 yrs old. How can I tell my son you must contact this man so he feels emotionally rejected when he tells him personally he doesn't want him? I WILL NOT DO THAT TO MY SON!! he is the innocence in this mess he didn't ask to be born. His bio does NOT want pictures or updates he also stated in court. I cannot force a grown ass man to be a dad! He has all my contact information, his family has my contact information including his wife who was my best friend and was there for the birth of my son. the last time he seen him he was 9 months old the last time he spoke to him he was 4 1/2 and he insisted he call him by his given name.... So what would you do in my shoes?

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Submitted by Jsmom on Tue, 04/01/2014 - 10:30am

I would not have him covering my kids insurance. I would make sure I could do that myself so I never had to deal with him again.

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Submitted by tnic779 on Tue, 04/01/2014 - 10:41am

not so lucky for me...the state I live in believes you can force a parent to be a parent. I filed to have his rights revoked and my sons name changed before he started school which back fired BC the state made him cover his insurance and pay child support it wasn't me seeking it the state stepped in saying its the "parental" thing to do. And after thousands of dollars in legal and court fees the best I've gotten is 100% custody BC the judge believes "he may come around in a few years". I've even considered moving to a neighboring state to try AGAIN under different state laws