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Pays child support but court doesn't know he has them 50%

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Submitted by Scarletdreamer on Thu, 01/02/2014 - 10:27pm

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In PA. He has been told by the x he needs to have the boys 50% because that's what she wants... When she was sleeping around last two years with her married BF we had them more than 50%. She changes the days... At her leisure. The courts have NO idea he gets the boys 50% and he will not file for a support modification or to get anything documented regarding his time with the boys.. As far as the courts know he may be sees them once a week because he won't get it documented! She also makes 80k a yearly and when he was working hemade maybe 20-25k. HHow can he be paying her money when he had them 50%!!! now he's out of a job and I don't think he let the court know he's out of work so they are going to arrest him again!
He keeps saying he's going to file for a petition to heart things changed.. That's been his words for two years... Never happened yet.. I can't take it anymore.

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Submitted by overworkedmom on Fri, 01/03/2014 - 7:43am

YOU can't do anything to fix stupid. Sorry to put it like this but if he isn't willing to fix this than you need to take yourself into consideration and realize that you are going to suffer in more ways than one over his stupidity. If he won't pull his head out of his ass then you need to walk.

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Submitted by PolyMom on Fri, 01/03/2014 - 7:54am

Absolutely ridiculous. If you choose to stick around with the financially irresponsible person, I would keep a separate account, and make sure he's paying his share of living expenses. Let him worry about his own CS problems, they aren't yours.

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Submitted by misSTEP on Fri, 01/03/2014 - 8:22am

His fear of BM is greater than his love for you. I don't think I'd want a man like that. Worst part is, he could have had this all cleared up by now!

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Submitted by thinkthrice on Fri, 01/03/2014 - 9:20am

"His fear of the BM is greater than his love for you."

MUCH MUCH MUCH GREATER!!!!!

Living with a guy like this for over 10 years now. It's a dead end street, hon. Get out NOW!!

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Submitted by onthefence2 on Fri, 01/03/2014 - 9:24am

My bf was in this situation. BM took a 2nd shift job, so even on her week, he would get him after school, feed him, etc. so their 50/50 turned into 80/20 if that. And of course he pays for everything for him. Thankfully his cs isn't high. Of course now she is drawing unemployment and living off the state. She's "one of those."

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Submitted by StepMomTaxi on Tue, 01/07/2014 - 10:39pm

Ugh....DH ends up having SK slightly more than 50% of the time (55%-60% maybe over the course of a year) and the courts do not care and have him paying CS to BM....who chooses not to work. They have "shared residency" with her address as listed for school purposes only. Make me grumpy.