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Hello all,
I have been married for about 11 years. My wife has a son, who was 4 when he came to live with me. Her ex hardly ever paid child support. We have a prenuptial, stating that we will keep everything is separate property. My wife was always the one who made the (final) decisions about her son.
2 years ago my stepson started to use drugs and we had to send him to the US (we are living abroad) for treatment at considerable expense, paid by me from my account. During that same time she had an affair, leading to a divorce this weekend as she continued the affair.
She never attempted to get any money from the stepson's father.
Would it be fair and morally justified to deduct that amount from the final settlement?
HB
YES! 1. you have a prenup to
YES!
1. you have a prenup to keep sep prop.
2. ss father has nothing to do with the debt. Its your exwifes issue if she is too dumb to go after him for CS. unless this guy is not the real father and she knows it. Hence why she never went after him for the cs in the first place.
3.THey may see it as a gift help unless you clearly stated that you wanted the money back. Did you say you are paying for cause she can't and she'll owe you?
I would say try to get it. It is fair for you to ask for the money back. Its her son , not yours. Morally...mm...she cheated on you! Its morally wrong of her to betray you while you dish out the cash for her son's drug issues. Obviously since she was calling the shots for her son, she didn't do any good for him.