I agree after reading and commenting on the recent post that I read! I am so thankful that it is not happening to my family! I don't knock helping kids go to college or even paying for it for those that are lucky enough to afford that for their child but a child that does not appreciate it does NOT deserve it and its sad that in some situations, the parent has no choice but to pay! Unreal!

It was me.....and it started with the oldest daughter. She began failing semester after semester and the judge kept ordering my dh to pay. She and her sisters sued for cell phones, and one even got the judge to give her my dh's second car because she wrote a letter to the court that my dh didn't pick her up in a timely manner from her summer job! I could write a book on this..........these witches used the courts to wound him, why .....because he had the audacity to get married and they just wanted him to take care of them. Dh married a conniver who had been using him for years. A few times when we were dating, his phone accidentally dialed me......and I heard a few ugly encounters that e had with his ex wife, and one with a daughter.. They were cursing him out.......and honestly sounded so cruel.
So yes.....dh has to pay child support, plus 7k per semester, and half of her books each semester. No thank you, nothing. And I should add that this witch got 20 k from my dh's parents recently due to a custodial acct they had set up years ago for these monsters!!!! So I consider her photocopying her book bill and just mailing it to dh the height of grotesque. To my husband's daughters, I truly hope you recognize yourselves and someday I look forward to telling you to your faces what Absolute freaks I think you all are!

After having read a lot of the issues about cs after 18, and being court ordered to pay for college I sat my oldest down to let her know we had some financial decisions to make. She turns 18 in a few months but won't graduate until May our state automatically requires cs "until 18 or graduation whichever comes latter" However I can request cs longer for college or modify the co to include half of college expenses (it does say half of school expenses but it's not college specific) I told her my options regarding college and reminded her it has always been known there was no college savings, her dad and I have never and are not in a position to even be allowed to co-sign loans that she will have to apply for aid, scholarships and work, but what would she like to do, have me modify and request cs through college, try and push the sharing of school costs as including college or deal with her dad directly herself for any assistance she may need. He's in arrears plenty of cs as is. She was made aware of it and how repayment of arrears works because I think she needs to know to make an informed decision and she's almost an adult. he usually pays biweekly but hasn't paid the full amount in a year now. She decided she would deal with him directly she feels she will #1 not get crap from him any way and #2 if she does there will be less drama and issues with him giving her help if she asks and it's not court ordered since "He doesn't pay when or what he's supposed to and does it just because he and his gf know it screws things up for you." That kinda shocked me and I had her clarify that yep they've said this to my kids, I get screwed on my cs on purpose. I honestly think she's right she has a much better chance of his financial help if she deals with him directly, of course I'm betting he'll tell her no because he'll be still paying cs on her brother ans all of the arrears long after she's done with college. I like the decision I make to ask her and let her make a decision it's her college education, she will be an adult and has to learn to start handling the adult relationship she will have with him.
To add she will be attending our local community college, it's affordable, close and she researched cost vs education and feels she can get a better deal there. If she decides to go further she's said "I will already be working at an in demand job making good money and all of the places looking for my career type will assist with further education it's a win win for me. I get a good inexpensive education that gets my foot in the door to get a great inexpensive education." In a way I feel sad I can't do better for my kids than that but I'm also glad because they will appreciate what they work for more than anything I just handed to them.

It is a real source of resentment for me in that my children are attending state schools and community colleges, while his daughter, who has had no contact with me in over 3 years, sits her ass at a fancy private school, and dh is forced to pay for someone who s basically just using him as a money tree. And she refuses to even pick up the damn phone. There are no words to convey the absolute disgust I feel toward she, her sisters, and her vile mother.