Bill hudson
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So the man has disowned his two grown children with Goldie Hawn. Precipitated by a nasty tweet done on Father's Day. (Hey, at least he did get some recognition, unlike my dh). I read his comments to my dh, who looked sheepishly, but said nothing. What else is new. I like these men who actually respond to assaults by their genetic offspring!!
Because Hudson is such an
Because Hudson is such an unusual name.
Agreed. Oliver's nasty tweet
Agreed. Oliver's nasty tweet was completely unnecessary - and cruel. He took a private matter public, dragging both sides of his family into it. On Father's Day.
Classless, indeed.
Just read the entire Bill
Just read the entire Bill Hudson interview.
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-3141732/Goldie-Hawn-s-ex-Bill-Hu...
His story and my DH's story is eerily similar
I don't know anything about
I don't know anything about Bill Hudson and I've always liked Oliver Hudson but that tweet he started it with is bizarre to me. He's 38, what the hell? Still pining for daddy to tuck him in at night? At 38 he can't pick up a phone and say, "Dad, let's talk? What's your story?" Even if he already has certain knowledge the man is more trouble than he's worth, why poke the beast with such a provocative and age-inappropriate tweet?
Bill Hudson's story of alienation sounds way too much like some of the stories here. I don't know what kind of person he is, but that alienation story is eerily familiar coupled with a real stunted development move by a 38 year old man makes Goldie quite suspicious sounding as a bm. And I always liked Goldie.
In Goldie's favor, however,
In Goldie's favor, however, Yves Renier was not in Cactus Flower. Hmmm.
I think somewhere in here is
I think somewhere in here is a good lesson for fathers to talk early (and maybe even often) to their children about the divorce, rather than trying to dance around it for years and years. I think dads think they are protecting the kids, etc.; meanwhile, the relationship continues to deteriorate and slip away, until it winds up being a couple of strangers just picking away at each other about who is more to blame. Spoke with a counselor recently and mentioned aside that my husband had never had “the talk” with his kids, who are both now in their 20’s. My husband just kept waiting for the kids to come to him—-figured at some point they’d want to know his side of the story. Well, that time never came, and then a family event occurred that was disastrous, prompting my visit to the counselor. She recommended that my husband speak with both of his kids, alone (so they hear the same story), and explain to them why him and their mother divorced, and to be honest about it all, incl. her liasons. Then, to open it up for any and all questions. Counselor said they should have been told dad’s version years ago, and she suspects that BM may have been poisoning the well for years. Sad thing is that so much time has gone by, it may only make things worse, but still important that they hear dad’s truth/voice in all of this. DADS—don’t wait to talk with your kids about this!!
We struggle with this issue,
We struggle with this issue, too. For a while sd was demanding both sides tell their story. She was 13 and we had recently married.
So BM, feeling stupid that DH had found an awesome partner and she can't even get a date, poured her garbage down sd's wide throat like the gaping little birdie she was.
Dh and I just said things like it was private to the two married people, nunya (gently), the most detailed thing I said was sometimes people find out out they weren't as good a match as they thought they were.
At 15 now and with a longterm bf of her own, she still hasn't noticed her mom does not like her dad and that's pretty much not gonna make a great marriage. It's blindingly obvious her mom doesn't like her dad. She mocks him, blames him, has no interest him, it would not take a rocket scientist to figure this out. But BM's story is that she "had no choice/Dad just left/poor me." Oh brother.
I think DH just may be damned either way. If he speaks, BM will just throw mud on his words and the mud will stick.
some people say take the high
some people say take the high road and dont mention the divorce. my husbands ex had an affair and then left to marry the lover. the ex cheated with a married man and broke up two families. she was the other woman. fast forward 20 years to learn this second husband cheated on HER. the karma truck never misses.
the dh told his children what happened as soon as they could understand adultery and cheating. as the children grew to adults and had relationships they understood this better.
not in favor of protecting the children from the truth.
that this is a celebrity
that this is a celebrity family means their dirty laundry is up for all to see. we don't know the whole story, perhaps. hard to judge this.
I thought the entire
I thought the entire situation was oozing with immaturity for all involved. First there's Oliver a grown man having his little mantrum on a global site. Then Kate who is publicly fawning over Kirk on Twitter as her "Pa" which I'm sure she knew would hurt Bill. Whatever happened to sending a Hallmark card?! But where did they learn this infantile behavior from? Bill's reaction tells me that he did on some level "abandon" his children and he's too narcissistic to see or admit it. There may have been some PASing going on and he may have decided that it was easier to just cut ties than deal with it. I get that it's hard dealing with an ex, but that is a facet of divorced life but children are not disposable.
The fact that he publicly disowns both of them because the son dared speak his truth after decades is the most childish act trying to protect his ego. He further goes on to say that the three "birth" children he raised are his real family (paraphrasing). What a stab in the back.
It's awful for his first set of kids but now his other children will likely never communicate anything other than superficial happy feelings so as not to be disowned by daddy.
Happy F*ing Fathers Day, Abandonment Day, Sperm Donor Day, PASing Day........ yeah there's a ton of dysfunction out there. The Hudson kids are not alone.