Dont know what to make of it
Since me and my D are not accepted in this family and my DH should be with his family and grandkids (this is what they tell my DH). SK's tell my DH he shouldnt have anything to do with my parents or any part of my family. SS and DIL told DH I am not welcome to come to their house or any family get togethers. So DH told them he wont be coming to their house or any family get togethers. So thankful for my DH. SS and DIL will have another baby due in December. This time I wont be at the hospital because with the birth of the last child they were so ugly with me at the hospital. I tried so hard to be nice to them but that was shoved right back in my face. SS and DIL wouldnt let us hold the baby or take a picture. Other SS and DIL stormed out of the room when I showed up with DH and left the hospital.SD called DH the night before crying and acting like a 2 year old telling DH he needs to be at the hospital and your wife need to stay home. Well I didnt stay home .I wont be going this time to hospital tho. DIL and SS put a picture of their last baby in the paper stating like this . Proud grandparents are my DH and his EXWife name. She still has DH last name. I didnt say a word but people in our very small town sure ask me about it. So I told them how ugly and mean SK's I have. This is what puzzles me . My DIL parents are just as disrespectful to me as she is . Why would they be like that? I have tried speaking to them and they didnt have anything to say to me. I just dont get it. We have learned that the EX wife has loads of picture's of her grandkids but since my DH wont ditch me he cant have any pictures of his grandkids.We dont have any of them. Oh well I am much better off without this bunch of losers. They are not worth the trouble.
You dont deserve to be
You dont deserve to be treated like that nor should you tolerate it!!! If they want NOTHING to do with you or have you around then DISAPPEAR (from their lives not DH)!!! Do not talk to them, acknowledge them or in any way financially contribute to them and some day...mark my words...they will need something and when they do you simply say this.....BE CAREFUL WHAT YOU WISH FOR...
I am so sorry that these
I am so sorry that these grown adults are acting like this. How ridiculous and childish! I am outraged for you right now. The way I have always seen things is that when there is someone out there who wants to love my child and be a part of my child's life, I am going to suck up my own pride and let my child have that love.
Whatever these issues are that the skids have with you they need to get over so that their children can have even more grandparents to love them and enrich their lives.
Your DIL's parents have
Your DIL's parents have probably been told that you are a horrible, nasty troll who is evil and horrible and terrible and....get the idea?
DIL is apparently on a mission to smear your name, and she has obviously succeeded.
If you met my FDH's kids, you would be told awful things about me. They hate me, simply because I am their father's soon-to-be wife. In my case, they want their father back with their mother. These are young adults, and my fiance and his ex have been divorced for YEARS. Additionally, they have been raised to believe their father exists simply to give them money. We do not have a lot of money, but they were used to him giving into their demands the best he could. If he spends 10 bucks on me, that is 10 bucks taken from them. They won't work, and they expected him to support him forever. He woke up over a year ago when their behaviors got out of control. They are vile creatures and I want nothing to do with them. I tried to be nice, they only got worse. They are just so mean.
Your skids are on a mission of hate, and thank goodness your DH supports you. My FDH is the same way. I know it is hard to be treated this way, and to watch your DH be treated like this. For me, I do not care about me, but it hurts to see the way these people treat their dad. He was a good dad to them, but their mother has poisoned them and raised them to have no concept of reality.
There could be so many reasons for your skids' behaviors, but they are most likely not going to change, and they are obviously talking terribly about you. You will have to accept it, as hard as it is, and enjoy your life with your DH. You do not deserve this, and you need to have peace. Forget them, they are not worth it.
You are asking why others
You are asking why others would treat you badly without reason. Please go to Stepaside's blog for information on RA. http://www.steptalk.org/node/60090
It is like a toxic poison. A few years ago DH and I went to a reunion where his ex-wife was present. We have not exchanged three words in the 21+ years DH and I have been married but she was openly hostile to me. I noticed I was almost shunned by people whom I have never met. We sat next to some people also of whom I had never met, and they started making comments that suggested I broke up the marriage and that I disliked the ex. When I explained to them that I did not even meet DH until two years after the divorce and that I didn't know the ex they got the strangest look on their faces. After talking to them for a while, were very kind to me. Thankfully, there were other people there who knew the truth.
You are right - they are not worth the trouble. I'm sure you have another circle of friends who are.
When me and my DH met he had
When me and my DH met he had been divorced for 3 years. I never had a problem when the time came for me to meet his ex wife. Boy did I get a rude awakeing.I offered to shake her hand and I said nice to meet you. She whirled around like a toranado and was gone. She gave me hell and I had never seen anybody like her ever. This is where my SK gets their raising from. The apple dont fall far from the tree I have learned. I have a good realtionship with my ex husbands wife. She is good to my daughter and I respect her for that.She wont have a problem out of me. The first year we were married DH 1st grandchild was turning one years old. The Ex wife locked herself in the bedroom at the birthday party and wouldnt come out because I was there.I was in shock and her kids thought I was to blame for her actions.Since then I have had a battle on my hands . SD and me has never had a conversation and I mean that literaly.She sticks with her mom. One time I steped over my boundaries and put some pictures of her two kids that me and my DH took and put them on Facebook. SD called her dad and told him for me to get her kids picture off Fb.I mean I thought i was gonna go to jail for doing that.LOl.That really hurt my feelings and my DH told her off and told her she was just like her mom. I took them off and will never do that again. Now i never take a picture of her kids and its fine that i dont. Of course everyone else has her kids pictures on FB.The DILs do.SD husband is a veterian and she works at the clinic with him. They sure dont care to take my money when I take my pets there . I wised up and now I pay another vet I give my money to.. The list could go on and on about this family.I have suffered so much hurt but I have disengaged and all they have took away and lies they told on me I know time will heal.I have a friend that is getting married soon and she will have adult SK's .She ask me how was life with adult SK.I told her for me my SK were the most hurtful selfish hateful stuckup greedy and do as you are told and you are not welcome here in this family people I have ever seen. I think my friend is having second thoughts about getting married right now. I am gonna be alright from now on.