I am married to a man who has 2 daughters, I have three children of my own, 2 girls and 1 boy the boy being the youngest, 20 yrs old, my husband is 10 yrs younger than I. Anyway to make a long story short cause it is long, my children do not live @ home, his kids come over every other w/e, whenever we have an arguement about his kids and what they do he throws my kids in the argument, mind you he did not raise them, when we got married, the only one that lived w/us was my son which was short lived, another story. I don't even consider him their stepdad, which he gets upset over. How should I handle this aside from my telling him you are wrong my kids aren't here and theya re adults you cant treat them the same.His are 7 and 6