We will be going to bed in about an hour. No gift, card, call, nothing from SD. I DID treat DH special. Got him a card from the dogs, and took him out to breakfast. I'm hoping this will deflect any of the passive-aggressive games he usually plays in the next few days, when his anger and disappointment with SD sets in.

My little boy and I had a good day with DH. We took him out to his favorite restaurant and tried to honor him all day. We also took him to a museum.

Interestingly, since I've disengaged over a year ago I don't even think about what his kids did or did not do. Moving away and not having to spend fathers day with MIL being the one doing all the work honoring DH is helpful too. Her intentions may have been good, but her consistently being the initiator for Father's day activities didn't help my DHs kids take responsibility for honoring their dad themselves.

I actually completely forgot about skids today until I saw your post. It's nice that
things are as they should be and our little family is the focus for me. I'm actually glad if he interacts with his kids but it's not on my radar.

DH got a dark chocolate mouse from each of the cats. Then he went to his shop and later, total shock, he got a call from 2 of his 3 kids.

Not a bad day.

Our Father's Day was very nice too! Now, when you hear what all happened, you wouldn't think so but it is soooooo much better than things used to be!
I wrapped a big present up for DH and gave him a birthday card instead. No Father's Day mentioned. It was from my now deceased mother and myself. My mother had alzheimers at the end of her life and would argue that DH's birthday was around this time of year. (his birthday is no where near this season! LOL)
By 930am my Step Son in Law had already called very upset because SD wouldn't give him the children for father's day even though it is a court ordered holiday. We went to church and by the time church started, I had already gotten hold of the court orders on my smart phone and wanted to go over and choke SD. (We haven't spoken in 3 1/2 years so I was just dreaming!)
Went to nursing home to see my dear Father in law.
DH got call from his own son.(he is distant, but always cordial to me and denounces what his sisters have done to DH and myself)
My son called to wish DH Happy Father's day also and sent an awesome gift.
My other son didn't call which is very unusual as he is very thoughtful but I know he had to go to a funeral home in a distant town. Still.....grrrrr.....
The evening until bedtime was spent going over to son in law's home and helping him write 6 pages of arguments for his upcoming divorce and child custody battle.
We still haven't seen our grandchildren for 3 1/2 years due to this step bitch. Son in law has begged our forgiveness for this and has offered to bring them visiting but we want him to wait until the divorce is over.
All in all, it was a very nice fathers day. DH has had it far worse.
I think we both decided finally no matter what, SD's can't hurt us anymore. We have nothing more to lose from them. They already took our hearts and threw them in the blender when they held the grandchildren hostage. Or when they wrote all the vile hate when DH had major cancer surgery......
DH as well as myself, were left raising our children all alone. His wife died of cancer. He never dated or even went out socializing for 13 years. His children were all very bright honor students, were in 4h, accomplished pianists, musicians, world travelers, artsy ,allowed to be in all curricular activities they desired, college education provided, close knit family with grandparents and aunts and uncles. We married when all were grown.
Arrested development, narcissism and personalty disorders all balled up in one big happy dysfunctional unit. Entitlement issues up to their ears. Sick.
Funny, how my kids don't feel entitled. They had the same heartache growing up. They just wanted to see their mom happy someday and have someone there for her when they were grown and lived far away.
Anyway, we went to bed last night with a smile on our faces and a feeling of contentment that this is the way it is going to be. It's been a long time coming and I am sure I will relapse again and let them get under my skin but I am getting too old for their s..t so it is going to happen less and less.

SOs fathers day could have been better. Admittedly, I could have done more but were moving and such....so we will be doing a do over!!!!! And I feel bad about it!
However, my DD got him something to honour him as her Step Father in the making.

His Children, didnt bother calling him yesterday(but his daughter at least called this morning). His son, I dont think really cares about him as much as he should....and he didnt get a call. I understand we dont see them that often, but we took them on a mini Vacation in April, always get them great gifts for christmas. I spent my money on them outlet shopping as SO had none...mind you I dont get aknowledged, but thats fine.

I just felt very bad for SO, they dont acknowledge him on christmas either(no christmas presents), but we still see them.

His Daughter is 14 turning 15 and SS is 13.

Maybe they will mature.

I got BM a mothers day and birthday gift last year, after her shenanigans and not participating with driving, i am debating if i should still do what I did last year..and continue.

I felt sorry for DH, I tried to make it special and this is the first year we have been disengaged.
However, he never really heard from them before either...usually I would text them and remind them to call or something. They believe he has done nothing for them as well and wouldn't want him to think other wise, so not going out of their way to call or send a card. I don't think any of them have ever bought a gift for Fathers Day or his b-day....but if he would have just sent a card for their birthday or just called he would have been even more pathetic in their eyes..better have a gift or don't bother!! I will be so glad to be done with them completely and the BM ...CS only 3 more years!!!