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Just found out I have a 34 year old niece ;)

jam's picture

Wanted to share something with you today.

A few months back my brother had been contacted by a young lady that was looking for her bio father. Long story short, DNA proved my brother IS her father. He had no idea. My new found niece had been looking for both her parents for years. Her bio mother never told my brother she was pregnant. My niece was bounced from one family member to another until one day her bio mom left her with a neighbor and never came back for her. She then ended up in the foster care system with a family that later adopted her.

My niece longed for her bio parents and her adopted mother did what she could to help. My niece found her bio mother but her bio mother doesn't want anything to do with her. She then found her bio father (my brother). My brother and our family have welcomed her with open arms.

I have talked with my niece on the phone, text messages, facebook friends, and finally got to met her. She has a wonderful husband and beautiful children. The reunion was simply but very sweet and full of joy. I am so very happy to know about her although I feel bad that all these years we did not know she even existed. My brother feels guilt but wants to press on and begin making happy memories.

I find it interesting that my dh has been a wonderful father to his children and they treat him like crappola. They had nice things, went on nice vacations and my dh was very involved in their lives. My dh went to all the ball games, all activities and loved his children. They had EVERYTHING my niece wanted.

still learning's picture

It's nice to hear that there's a semi happy ending to your niece's story. She's sounds lucky to have been adopted and then accepted by her fathers family too. I have an older half sister who had no idea of her real father until we found her when she was 50. Like your niece she was welcomed into the family w/open arms and she has become one of the favorites in the family. Amazing how it can all work out when there's maturity involved.

DH told me that there are rumors that he may have a long lost daughter from one of his ex gf's who took off on him years ago. After all I've been through w/ss32 and DH's poor boundaries I don't think I could deal w/another child of his. This may sound terrible but I secretly hope it's not true.

jam's picture

I would hope secretly that the rumors were not true too. Although you know, I bet your skids would also not be so kind to the new kid on the block either.

--figureditout--'s picture

My niece and nephew were taken by their drug addled mother back in the 1990s. I was able to help my brother get into contact with his son before he passed away (my brother died in a motorcycle accident). I have now been able to reconnect with my niece. It's odd and wonderful all at the same time. I hope that the relationship continues to grow.

SugarSpice's picture

finding bio parents after adoption can be unhappy. giving up a child for whatever reason is not a happy thing. and as niece found out, bio mom was not what she might have thought.

glad the news was well received and niece was welcomed into the family.