So, ss #1 and phony wife,(peacemaker my ass), exclude me from first born sons christening. DH didn't go, but apologized and asked for brats forgiveness while on 3 week hunting trip. I told him he should have gone. This 32 year old spoiled ahole is enjoying the power he wields over daddys life. DH told me I need to text/call his son and try to make amends. I can't, I did nothing to deserve this. DH says no one noticed that I wasn't at baby shower or christening. Foolish man, of course they did! Makes me sick, phony wife acts like a martyr, she's tried everything to make peace. She enjoys this. Now DH wants me to go to his Thanksgiving dinner at his mother's house. I will never, ever be in the same room with them again. I am so consumed with anger. I can't live this way. Psoriasis and Sjogrens flare ups constantly, I'm making myself sick with this! I can't stop, I know it's ridiculous to allow anyone to control my emotions so negatively. ss isn't thinking about the grief he has caused me. Why can't I stop? Seriously, I feel like I'm losing it sometimes. #2 ss, 31 years old, on 3rd job in 6 months. It will be a year in Jan. he moved in with us, " just for a couple months". His girlfriend of 3 months lives here too. I was never asked how I felt about that. Her thong underwear, bras, clothes in my dryer, ss throws laundry in the washer and leaves. Should I have dumped their clothes in their bedroom? DH would have been very angry. I have to face the fact that I come last. I am getting the feeling DH is tired of me and my anger.He doesn't care how I feel. I put all my money, over $100,000 into this house. DH pays the bills, I got sick 3 years ago, can't support this house. So, choices are limited. I have my 17 year old son who gives no one any problems to think of. He has another year before he graduates. I can't turn his life upside down again. I have to find some kind of peace and just deal with it.