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Submitted by Newimprvmodel on Sun, 04/14/2013 - 3:07pm

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Dh and I keep all our money separate, although we do share health insurance. He is planning on paying for his parents vacation home upgrades this summer, probably around 5 grand. He asked my advice. I said I did not want to give my opinion that is his money. Obviously I would rather the money not be spent there, but did not feel I had that right. And yes I do some balances on my credit cards, but did not share this with him. Was I wrong?

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Submitted by hereiam on Sun, 04/14/2013 - 3:16pm

If he asked for your advice, I guess he is giving you the right to at least state your opinion. What he does, is still his choice.

I have no problem giving my husband my opinion, whether it's asked for or not!

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Submitted by Amber Miller on Sun, 04/14/2013 - 3:39pm

I don't think you are wrong, it sounds like you are trying to be respectful. My DH doesn't spend any money without asking me first which I appreciate. All of our money is co-mingled so I see it as a sign of respect. If he asked your opinion he's opening the conversation to hear what you have to say. Would it bother you if you told him that you'd rather the money be spent on something else and he went ahead and did it anyway? I don't know; just a thought.

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Submitted by sandye21 on Mon, 04/15/2013 - 8:16pm

DH and I have separate accounts of our own and a joint account for household / vacation expenses. What he does with the money in his own account is his business as long as he pays his share into the house fund. But it was nice to ask your opinion. I have mixed feelings about the money that would be going into his parents' house. It is his money and you are not putting anything into it, so it would be up to his parents and himself who inherits the parents' home - don't know what the legalities are.