OSD...or she's trying at least.

DH had blocked her 4 or so months ago, after 2 years of abusive behavior. It was over the top towards me and to a much smaller degree towards DH. It hurt my heart to read/hear her words to him; the foul name calling, the lies, etc. DH did not even realize it was abuse; I believe it started slowly and ramped up in frequency and severity over time. It started at 10 and by the time it was to 100, I believe he was desinsitized to it. I had to point it out, "This is abuse. It is not okay. You do not deserve this." I'm getting off track.... DH had told her many times that she needed to repair the damage she had caused. It fell on deaf ears and would, in fact, incite more name calling and lies towards me plus verbal abuse towards her dad. After telling her one last time to repair the damage, she refused, and he blocked her on all fronts. It was not easy for him to do. I do understand that no matter how vile her behavior, it is his daughter. As for me, we have no bond so it was easy to set a boundary and say, "No". I simply will not accept her nonsense in my life. She makes my skin crawl.

I received a text from OSD. She apologized for "A"...kind of, anyway. There was a 'but' which indicated an excuse was coming. It did. An apology with an excuse is not an apology. An apology involves acknowledgment of the offense, assuming responsibility for the offense, acknowledging the impact of the offense on the person you wronged, and saying "I'm sorry". Changed behavior will follow if it is a genuine apology. It wasn't genuine at all. She told me how it affected her. She told me how it affected her family. She was not interested in how it affected me or her dad. It was a pathetic attempt to get what she wants...access to her dad. She has had almost 2 1/2 years to make things right. Her so-called apology was a means to an end. It had nothing to do with me. Also there is the issue of "B - Z" that she did not even mention. That is where she added insult to injury with all the lies she told about me. She portrays herself as the victim. As I said, she makes my skin crawl.

For some odd reason, she thinks I tell her dad what to do. Thank goodness he is autonomous, I have no desire to be with someone who can not think for himself. He made the decision to block her because of her behavior. Can she not understand that her pathetic attempt at an apology is transparent? It was a self-serving act, nothing more.