We don’t want to nit-pick, we’ve been keeping our mouths shut
(especially since SS has been pulling his weight around the house with rent and chores)
My list of “issues” with how they’re raising this kid is long:

The child is never ‘sat down’ for a meal
They don’t really feed him regular meals, they just give him whatever… his diet consists mainly of cheese sticks, yogurt, bananas, and Pepperidge farm Gold fish, grilled cheese sandwiches and chocolate (yes, they give him chocolate ALL The time!)

Every once in a while, my step-son will set a plate on the coffee table with a grilled cheese sandwich, cut into pieces for the boy to pick at while he’s playing
That’s a “meal”??

Green vegetables don’t pass his lips
Other than bananas, he isn’t given any fruit
No good protein either!
The only other “meals” that he eats are Happy Meals from McDonalds

He has no schedule
They give him naps whenever and sometimes not at all
Sometimes the naps start at 6:00 at night and then he wakes up at 9 or 10 pm and is up until the wee hours of the morning

Last night was case and point

2:30 he woke up the entire house (me, my husband and my bio-kid) with his temper tantrum, screaming yelling, throwing things

This is not an unusual event

They don’t correct him
He hits everyone and they just ignore it
He throws things at people, the walls, the cat and they don’t correct him
He purposefully knocks things over and they don’t correct him
When he’s done eating, he takes the food on the plate and destroys it with his hands and throws it on the floor and all they do is clean it up and take it away
He screams and yells and they make no attempt to diffuse the situation

If we say something, are we meddling?
He hasn’t broken anything in the house yet, but his behavior is wearing thin on my nerves.
I do not tolerate the hitting or the “2 year old talking back” when he tries it with me, I’m no longer his “favorite” and he runs to Mommy whenever I tell him “no”
I ONLY tell him “no” or say anything when is behavior directly affects me (i.e. if he hits me, or throws something at me, or screams at me)

I hate to sound like “when I raised my children…” but… really… the responsibility of actually RAISING a child is nil beyond changing his diapers and giving him a bath (even the bath isn’t done regularly!)

Last night, at 2:45AM, while the tantrum continued my husband said “we have to say something”
I don’t know if that’s a good idea or not, looking for some feedback here

It’s a sticky situation