Dh tells me yesterday evening that he didn't get in touch with his eldest daughter to wish her happy B Day :jawdrop:

I guess DH is getting fed up with his eldest daughter's behavior, not just towards me but even recently when DH was sick and we spent some time in emergency, his daughter has never phoned to so much as see if DH is even okay. She did convey a message to him through FIL about what she wanted DH to buy her for her birthday, but not a word to see if he was okay

Although I appreciate DH 'supporting' me by giving his daughter a taste of her own medicine on her birthday (I say one of the best birthday presents she can receive actually) I worry this will start a war

This girl just turned 32 but has the emotional intelligence of a 13 year old. She will be :O that DH didn't phone her and then will figure it has to do with the fact she didn't call me a few days prior on my birthday and will of course blame me

I fear DH's daughter will make a big deal about it and make DH pay by using SGS to hurt DH, and she will be even worse where I'm concerned

It won't matter to her that she treats me badly with no reason, or that she treats her father badly with no reason. She won't think it matters one bit that she would even hurt DH on occasion by not acknowledging him on Father's Day, all she will feel is shock and outrage that DH ignored her day

DH did this to her once before and the news definitely went out to other family members how pissed off she was about it. We heard it from YSD who DH's eldest obviously mentioned it too. It was so hard then for me to not open my mouth and say well what did she expect? She ignores her father and his wife on Father's Day/Mother's Day, birthdays, doesn't have Christmas dinner with us ever (but does come around to scoop up their presents for Xmas brunch)

And after all these hurtful things she does to others she turns around and expects everyone to fall over backwards for her. She is in :O :jawdrop: when anyone turns around and treats her exactly the same way back.

I think the term entitled princess is very fitting