Why would a grown man put up with a step-daughter that treats him bad when he is no longer married to her mother?
My husband has no biological tie to this child but i understand the love he has for her because he raised her. I was raised by a step father so i truely get this. What i don't understand is why he allows her ignore him while she visits everyone else she is related too, walk right past and not speak, but when it comes time for a birthday or holiday show up for a handout and usually don't even acknowledge him? Borrow expensive things that we own, simply because they can and they don't want to have a payment so everything is fair game. Don't want to come visit us and swim in our pool when we are home but will call and want to use the pool if we are gone. He says he is just going to be the best parent and grandparent he can be regardless of how he is treated. I feel that it is bad parenting to allow a grown child to treat you this way. Whenever she or her husband make contact and want something he jumps. I would never allow my children to treat him this way and don't like the fact the they see her doing it. If she truely loved him and appreciated all he did for her growing up i would think she would show him more respect. Neither of her biological parents worked, dad never paid child support, my husband did it all. I refuse to give them the power of hurting me anymore. You can not build a relationship with someone who obviously doesn't want one and only want's to use you for a babysitter and for money. The way i see it, if you don't have time for my husband, whom i love, then you don't need me as a babysitter when he is at work. Does anyone else have this issue? Would appreciate any thoughts or suggestions!
I went thru the same thing.
I went thru the same thing. My DH ex-sd19 was horrible... she was very jealous of me and my 3 bio daughters, always causing problems between my DH (boyfriend at the time) and I. One of the biggest problems I had with her was that she was very clingy to him always on top of him, hanging on to him like if she was the girlfriend, but when she didnt get what she wanted she was very disrespectful to him calling him names constantly hanging up the phone on him. Whenever she needed something all she had to do was call and he would jump and run to her aid. We would get in so many arguments because of her and her mouth he would always say that he would talk to her but never did so she continued to talk her shit and always behind his back of course cause in front of him she LOVED me and was so happy I was with her "dad". She would ask my DH about our sex life wanted to know every detail about it, constantly in the middle of everything even our disagreements and she felt like she had all the power over him saying that he was not allowed to have any more kids cause she didnt want him to. She was just a nightmare she was not happy when he proposed to me and when we got married (we were only engaged for a week) she stopped talking to him completely, now that she is out of our lives he sees all the schemes she would try to pull just to break us up and he now wants nothing to do with her. It took a lot for him to see her behavior and it has left me angry at her resentment towards him for allowing her to talk and treat me tha way she did when all I ever did was accept her and be there for her. But until your DH opens his eyes and puts a stop to it she will continue to walk all over him like she has. They (the men) have to control to stop it at any moment.