How do you manage the money with skids when they not with you?

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So we are away for a few days, sd15 called DH in tears saying she needs money for a ticket to some show all her mates are going to.... She does not have a bank account as BM won't give DH copies of skids birth certificates so.... We said we can't help unfortunately. So what's the best way to handle these kind of things?

"We are on vacation, your

"We are on vacation, your lack of planning does not constitute an emergency for me/us, we will discuss this when we get home."

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Or the shorter version
"Ask your mother"
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Lol

I've heard others on here say

I've heard others on here say that they have cash cards for the kids, so you can load up some money on there for them remotely if you have the details. I've not used one before so I don't know all the details. In this case though I would agree with just_his_wife, the kid needs to plan better, going to a show is not an emergency and tears do not get you money.

Yeah! She asked for a bank

Yeah! She asked for a bank account with money in it for her birthday, so we owe her that if BM can play along and stop been such a control freak. So pathetic!

Nope not in US. There's much

Nope not in US. There's much more to this story of the birth certificates than I care to explain... Whimsical BM has previously tried to leave the country with skids and it cost us a fortune to get a order in place that she can't. So this is probably payback for that....

I have USAA too. That sounds

I have USAA too. That sounds like a great idea. Do the cards have their names on them?

Yeah we tried the prepaid and

Yeah we tried the prepaid and BM used them. I'm sure we will figure our something.

^^^same happens to DH^^^ Had

^^^same happens to DH^^^
Had savings for skids, BM emptied them and closed them...

Agree too

BS20 has had a regular cc

BS20 has had a regular cc since he was 14. SS16 got his at 15. Both boys are trustworthy and ask to use it. It gives peace of mind for us. They have never abused it and I check BS's every day since he is at school. DH handles SS since we have separate finances.

You have to trust the kid. If not do a PayPal acct that you can add to. For our boys we did it this way so that they are building their credit as well.

Can you set up a PayPal

Can you set up a PayPal account without having a checking account attached?

Thanks peeps, I think DH is

Thanks peeps, I think DH is handling skids well. Just me that has to adjust to all these million of things to think about. But I have relished that half of them, are not my problem and I should just let it go.

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How do you manage the money with skids when they not with you?