So I am a childless woman and I am with my boyfriend who is a 34 year old man with a 4 year old child.
The relationship started in March but we had been friends since Aug 2012. I'm 24 and he is 34, the age may be an issue to some but for us it really is not something big. The only part that enters my head is if we had kids later on. Though my mind at the moment is no kids.

We had been taking it slow but while staying with him and his elderly father in June I came down stairs and found his father dead. His mother was divorced from the guy but was over in the UK with her daughter. I stayed with him, I took care of the funeral and got him sorted. It was hard but through it all he was concious of what I was doing and thankful. He took the time to comfort me after finding his father. I was just thinking back to when I had to call him at work, to tell him his father was dead. It was the hardest time in my life.

Now since then we were together for a solid month, I went off for 10 days to get my stuff sorted and for him to get his head straight. We decided to move in and it's been a few months now. I am happy with what we have.
I found a man who does things just to make me laugh, he says he is not a romantic but that is by hollywood standards. I am nervous in public and so is he, we go to the beach and he buys dinner every other week or just when we need to blow off steam.

Now the child is gorgeous and sweet. He is a very well mannered child, better than most adults! I adore this kid, he gives me surprise hugs, picks flowers for me and of course fights off the evil dragons I really did get lucky because the BPs split up a couple years ago so I am not seen as someone who took his dad away.

The BM is an issue, she can be okay but lately since he started school she is over protective and wants the father to see less of his son. He lives for his son and is a very good father.
For a few months he could not pay child support (2 months) but before that he was paying €112 a week (her rent). He gave her notice as his work is seasonal and he had to go on the dole. Since he is back at work he was going to pay but we received a letter from their ex landlord, now she stayed on at the place for a year and as a hoarder she accumulated a lot of shit. It took two skips to clear the house. She lied and said she paid for one but it was actually the deposit (which he paid but as I said it is technically 50/50). So she has been dodging this guy for a year. So the father says he will pay it off with the child maintenance money if she is okay with that. She said fine out and was happy about it. He never got it in writing though...
She now bitches about that but it has been only 1 week since he was back at work.
He has his son 2 Saturdays a month and 2 sleep over weekends a month. She wants to limit it and the times he gets to see his son. She wrote it down on a piece of paper and says he has to do it... ballocks to that. Last weekend he was meant to have an overnight but when she said no and tried to literally snatch the boy out of his fathers arms. She threatened to call the cops if he was not back. We called them instead and they said they could not do anything unless he was in danger.
Now she then gets her mother to call my boyfriends mother... she is being fed so much shit and the lies she is telling is awful. Thankfully my boyfriends mother is wonderful and was able to diffuse the situation.

Its the lies that piss me off, I have never been able to stand them. They make me feel sick inside at the injustice of them.

He says I never signed up for this shit and I can leave if I want. Men honestly... I can deal with her easily and already have an appointment at the solicitor.