Hi there! I have been with DH for four years (dating anniversary is today!). So I have been with him since his son was 2. We have had a lot of back and forth with the ex, and she was very emotional and nuts for a really long time, though it seems we are finally coming out of that. The issue is that my SS has major separation anxiety and I'm not sure what to do about it. Every night he is here, without fail, he will freak out at bed time and start bawling his little face off because he misses his mom. Every. Single. Time. He said something tonight in his anxiety-driven sob fest that made me think. He said "But I have to sleep all by myself here."

he's 6. Of course he's sleeping by himself. He's always slept by himself here.

The story goes that when my DH left the ex, my SS was about 1.5. At that point, he was in his own bed. The ex felt sad and lonely, so allowed co-sleeping and he's been doing that ever since. And he's now 6. I am trying not to be judgey. I know that I loved to sleep in my mom's bed always. But like, I feel like there needs to be consistency between houses. We have a full sized bed here. We can barely fit me, the husband, and the cat. Never mind a thrashy 6 year old.

So how do we cope with the anxiety and co-sleeping? I've tried distraction, but that only seems to work for a little bit. Ugh.