Back from Summer Break Already?
After zero contact/calls/letters/birthday presents from biomom for 3 years, SD spent the past 8 weeks visiting biomom for summer break. For 3 years we have tried to "encourage" biomom to contact her child but she has refused to do so until her last minute plan to take her for the summer. So now during the entire summer, SD did not call or contact DH the entire summer and is returning in 2 days! How strange (and how wrong) to just pop in and out of our life as if nothing happened. How am I supposed to feel her presence is normal after the way she has treated DH? How can I feel any loyalty toward her when she has no loyalty toward us? Having full custody of her, we have paid for everything, including all school issues and behavioral problems (which she has A LOT of) and she can just completely drop us for the summer then waltz back into our lives and into our family and start taking from us again? We have a 2 year old here too who was very concerned about where SD has been.
Children have to be tought to
Children have to be tought to be considerate. What you did was not out of the ordinary. She was brought into the world and someone took care of her. Normal life for a kid. She knew you guys would be all right - you're adults. She's all right so what's the problem she thinks.
If anyone BM is to blame for not making her be polite but we call understand why that didn't happen.
Daddy should sit her down and calmly explain why keeping in contact is important using his or your actual actions as an example. I'm sure he calls if he's going to be late or calls every night if he's away for overnight. He can explain how everyone feel good knowing he was safe and she should do the same.
It's simple politeness which is not instinctive.