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BM Relocating now we'll have skids entire summer - I'm scared!!!

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Submitted by lucybee825 on Sat, 05/21/2011 - 10:23am

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Blended Family Issues

Ok, so the BM is relocating out of state. They are changing the visitation a bit so my BF will have kids (2, ages 5 & 9) all summer long full time, then they'll go to live with BM most of the rest of the year. Although I'm glad that BF will, at least, have skids for summer I'm a little worried as to how it will effect us and our relationship. Right now we have one weekend with kids and one without and it's been working out pretty well. My son goes with his Dad the same weekend BF's kids are with BM. Having only raised and had one pretty mellow mature and quiet kids in the house full time and then going to three, demanding kids, all the same age, that albeit get along pretty well but do get into fights here and there, might be REAL rough on us. I'm worried we won't make it.

Just wanted to hear from any others that had this visitiation change and how they may have (or not have) gotten through it. I want it to work and I really do love this man and his kids but I'm a bit scared to be honest!

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Submitted by alwaysanxious on Sat, 05/21/2011 - 6:13pm

I haven't and I am sorry about your situation. I would be in your shoes too. Not sure if I would make it a whole summer full time.

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Submitted by confusedsm11 on Sat, 05/21/2011 - 7:10pm

I think it will start to get easier when summer is almost over. I know even with my bio, summer breaks are difficult but by the time summer is coming to an end, all the kinks are worked out. Atleast you don't have to deal with the skids during the year! I would take 3 months at a time to not have every other day! Although my DH would fight that to all get out and never allow BM to move...and if she did, I'd bet he would try to relocate our entire family to be with SS as he is the most important thing in the world

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Submitted by zebra.wings on Mon, 05/23/2011 - 7:07pm

My fiance' got full custody of his son. His mom only sees him now on weekends and I have two boys one is the same age as my ss. it is chaos. but we are fine. My kids rotate through three days on three days off and my fiance' in all honestly dislikes my kids..although there is some heart to hearts because of like you said -his son is mellow and you add another and its fine - one more to the mix and its insane! but we take it a day at a time and try to just laugh it off if possible. sometimes we can sometimes its a blow up fight, I still love him to no end and we just ..well live..good luck and I'm sure with time things will be liveable!